CHOOSE AWARENESS (How to Free Your Mind and Become Your Own Guru)

When you choose awareness, you start to understand that life is a series of metamorphosises.

I see it everywhere, and I feel it’s helpful to consider this perspective when life decides to bitchslap you.

Personally, I think life has bitchslapped most, if not all of us in some way or another. Sometimes these things show up as irritations or inconveniences. Other times they appear as full on catastrophes.

I’ve had my own fair share of issues throughout my life. In fact, I had recently had a discussion with some loved ones about some of the years gone by and “which ones were good.”

I had mentioned that for the most part, while I’ve had some great moments here and there and a few years that as a whole, I could consider having been pleasant, for the most part, I’ve lived a good deal of my life in pain and struggle.

I don’t say this to be a downer. Believe it or not, I don’t allow my problems to define me. While I can say that pain is unpleasant, it can serve a purpose that if used wisely, can bring about a sense of freedom unlike anything else I can describe. The idea, however, isn’t to only use the pain as a means to reach a goal (although that can be effective), but rather to expand, transcend and become a free thinker.

That’s what it’s done for me.

I don’t chase happiness. Instead, I choose awareness.

Look – life has gotten loud for a lot of us.

Whether we’re experiencing the pain of loss, transformation or even just an overall dissatisfaction with our lives; or if we’re experiencing the pain of events in the world that represent injustice, lack of human compassion, camaraderie, and peace…we can either choose to become deliberate thinkers – or blindly follow the crowd.

Now becoming a deliberate thinker is a tough thing to do. You’d have to see how you’ve been programmed.

You’d have to “put the glasses on” (and if you don’t know what I mean by that, watch the 1987 film “They Live”). And once you do…and the veil has been lifted, you’ll discover that most of what you’ve experienced throughout your life has been a series of thoughts and suggestions made by others who also didn’t know they were programmed.

Now I know that’s quite a mouthful, and by now, you may not even know what I mean by all of that.

So just stay with me for a moment and I’ll tie it all together.

Here’s the thing:

Society is brainwashed.

We don’t even know what we don’t know. And once it’s been suggested that we don’t understand there’s a situation in place to keep us dumbed down and grouped together as a mindless herd of unconscious order followers – even though you may recognize the truth in this, it’s still a tough pill to swallow.

We aren’t here to simply survive. That’s what we’ve been doing for eons. As as I’d heard one famous tv doctor say (even though I don’t watch tv anymore)  – “How’s that working out for you?”

We spend our time doing what everyone else does.

We hold jobs to keep our needs met (whether we enjoy what we’re doing or not), we try to keep up with others to feel a sense of satisfaction and completion – and we follow the suggestions made to us by a profoundly sick society about what it means to be productive human beings, even though such ideas never talk about the true reason for existing.

That reason is this:

We’re here to transcend our limited state of consciousness. To become aware of the self and the environment. To open ourselves up to the Intelligence that surrounds us from the Source of all creation and allow this to be our guiding force in life by expressing this wisdom into the physical realm.

Now maybe you’re thinking:

Who is this chick? What does she know? Where does she get this stuff?

And here’s what I’d have to say to that.

Don’t believe me. Don’t follow my suggestions. And don’t take my word as objective truth.

I’m not interested in being your guru, your leader, your expert, or your savior.

All I care about is expressing the concepts and experiences that show up for me to alert you to the fact that you just may want to put those damn glasses on and see what’s been both hidden from you, yet right in front of you this entire time.

What we experience in the world seems so solid, so immoveable.

So permanent.

But everything moves, everything changes. Nothing stays the same. It’s one of the laws of nature.

I didn’t make that up either.

“Nothing rests; everything moves; everything
vibrates.” ~ The Kybalion.

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Our small and egoic physical personalities, however, are limited, caged and heavy. This is why the world seems so chaotic. It’s because we’re living in a sea of conditions set by others and brought to fruition through our own actions.

Now with all of this (if you’re still following me), the question is:

So what do we do about this? How do we make any real, substantial changes in the world?

And to this, I would suggest you free your mind. Become your own guru.

CHOOSE AWARENESS (How to Free Your Mind and Become Your Own Guru)

Life presents us with a series of opportunities for growth and expansion. But in order for this to happen, we have to experience limitations.

We live in this physical world of duality. It’s there to help us choose. We use our free will wisely or by default.

Do we connect to the inherent wisdom inside of us and express it into the world, or do we follow the crowd – hoping to become something at least similar to the successful people who’s lives we’d rather live?

I say that true growth and transformation is a destructive process. The deconstruction of “what is/was” has to occur in order for a new structure to build based on what enables freedom, mobility, benevolence and life (Spiritual) sustaining fuel.

And what’s interesting is that once you realize this is a valid assessment of how things work, you start to see examples of it everywhere.

Let me ask you:

~ Has the loss of a job opened up new avenues that created more satisfying opportunities?

~ Have any of your breakups opened you up to relationships that reflected more of what you wanted?

~ Have you ever suffered a health crisis that woke you up to the fact that you needed to take better care of yourself and perhaps, even see your life differently?

These are all examples of deconstruction and the subsequent metamorphosis that occurred as a result.

But to do this, you had to experience the pain of “what is/was” to open the doors to “what can now be created.”

Unless you free your mind, there will never be true freedom.

True freedom, however, is based on becoming your own guru.

This doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate the ideas, experiences and wisdom shared by others. It just means you’re flexible and you’re able to trust in the inherent wisdom that resides within YOU.

Think about this:

A butterfly doesn’t start out as anything other than a caterpillar.

You will NEVER see a butterfly begin its life as this magnificent creature from its inception.

It first exists in a dense, heavy body – unable to do anything but walk on the surface of whatever lies beneath them. Its movement is more labor intensive. It’s far more vulnerable to harm.

And then something happens.

They close up. They go through a complete breakdown of their original form.

While the environment can either support or disrupt this process, it certainly doesn’t cause it.

That’s because it’s in a caterpillar’s genetic makeup that it becomes something else entirely without anyone else’s help or interference.

As what goes on inside of this cocoon remains hidden to the rest of us, everything about this creature goes through a transformation.

And in its own time, and by its own right, it breaks through the shell it once was and flies away…



and able to fuel the life span of other living beings – such as the plants that can grow life to sustain food for us.

That’s what we’re here to do.

But this will not be possible as long as we stay heavily influenced and caged by our temporary limitations – compliments of a staged and deeply programmed society, and our own infantile levels of consciousness.

How to Choose Awareness and Use Your Imagination Intelligently

The first thing to do is to take a step back, become a witness to yourself and all things and start asking some good questions.

In my new book, Choose Awareness (How to Free Your Mind and Become Your Own Guru), I have outlined some steps that have helped me to break free from the conditioning, become self-aware and know thyself.

I discuss things like:

  • Becoming aware of your thoughts.
  • Using your emotions (and your past) wisely.
  • Questioning thoughts and beliefs.
  • Knowing the role of your ego.
  • How to change the way you look at things.
  • The butterfly effect (why everything we do matters).
  • Celebrity idolization and the influence of the media, society and everything else.

And I sum it all in the end.

It’s an easy read. Only about 100+ pages. But even though it isn’t one of those long, novel-like experiences, I can promise you this is a thought-provoking subject matter that you’ll want to revisit time and time again because it can take a little while for some of this information to sink in.

This is because while taking in new information can be challenging, the real struggle comes from the deconditioning.

The deconditioning has to happen to avoid this thing call cognitive dissonance (two conflicting ideas trying to exist in your mind).  It causes a lot of internal chaos, and it keeps you a prisoner of outdated ideas and beliefs that may no longer serve you or humanity in general.

And perhaps, once you do begin the process of true self-awareness, you may discover these things not only don’t serve you well now, but they possibly never did in the first place.

If nothing else, you might find that if you’re willing to open your mind, let the gunk out and re-examine what you think you know – you may see that some of your previous notions do in fact contribute to your best interests, and by taking a better look, a more expansive approach to viewing life – you are now free to keep these aspects of yourself intact with more confidence because you’re more in alignment with your truth, rather than your conditioned beliefs – compliments of your upbringing.

How’s that for a run on sentence?

If you’d like to find out more about “Choose Awareness”, visit the book’s page on Amazon. You can also check out the nifty book trailer below.

Just keep an open mind. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.

You’ll see things from a far more expansive perspective.

You’ll free your mind…

You’ll become your own guru.

Because you choose awareness.

Until next time, take care.


Dana Gore

Author of the books "A Simple Guide to Exercise Safety (What You Don't Know CAN Hurt You)" and "Streetwise Philosophy (A Bullshit-Free Approach to Spiritual Maturity)", Dana Gore is a health and fitness professional, wellness coach, and freelance writer. Dana brings guidance to the public about how to achieve optimal health in a safe and structured manner while inspiring her readers to seek self-awareness and inner peace as a means to well-being in all areas of life.

4 thoughts on “CHOOSE AWARENESS (How to Free Your Mind and Become Your Own Guru)

  • at 8:53 am


    This is really a thought-provoking post/book! Something I know I can expect out of your works and am not surprised.

    The way you’d explained about the ‘becoming of a butterfly’ is simply great! I have never read anything about the caterpillar-to-butterfly transformation so poetically earlier.

    That being said, I have a question that I always ponder on: I too am a student of ‘being here now’, a student FOR life AND a student OF life. However, since the people around us are not the same and are definitely not with the same awareness-consciousness as ours, how do you cope with it? Is it that we tend to be aware of them too, and move on, with an understanding that it is what it is? That we don’t try and change them but understand and move on?

    I swing between being in the now and travelling along with my mind. That does help sometimes, to create something, to interact better with others, but when I am in the now, it’s bliss.

    Guess, that was my rant on ‘awareness’ and ‘consciousness’.
    All said and done, it’s so simple that it needs no words to feel. How I wish the awareness stays still forever!

    Thanks, Dana, for another “deep-thinking” work!

    P.S. I really loved the book’s cover! How did you get that done? It nails the subject bulls-eye! Also, the video trailer is good too, though I felt too much text in there.

    (in case you remember, we interacted last year through the ‘Grammarly’ review post that we both wrote) :)…..

    So long,
    Arun (from

    • at 9:50 am

      Hi Arun,

      Good to see you here. And yes, I remember you.

      I’m glad you enjoyed the post. If you read the book, I’d love to hear your thoughts on that as well.

      To answer your question – how do I cope?
      For me, I guess it helps that I’ve always been an introvert, sometimes to a fault. I prefer my own company most of the time. When I’m with others, I’m VERY choosy about who I spend time with.

      I suck at small talk. Gatherings and social events are minimal for me. I prefer thought-provoking conversations, so when I’m around others, if this isn’t a possibility, I’ll just hang out quietly and observe.

      I realized a while ago that this particular road is a lonely one. The road less travelled is this way because it’s seldom one that attracts company. I’m ok with this, though, but only because I don’t expect it to be anything other than what it is.

      But again, this is only possible because I know the real “I” (as opposed to the personality “me”) is the observer.
      So I observe. And because of this, I see.
      If that makes sense.

      The idea is to walk in this world, to be in it, but not OF it. So when we are around others who are of it, we have to remind ourselves to not be like this because it keeps us in a state of minimal consciousness.

      A true Stellar Man knows he is a student at all times. He may go on about his business in life quietly, not needing any hurrahs, accolades or rewards. They know who they are, they have nothing to prove.
      They know this and all lives they live are to expand, transcend and get closer to Source.
      It’s a no frills kind of thing. No glamour. No popularity.
      The awareness in and of itself is what keeps me going. To be aware of awareness itself. To see beyond the veil.

      But I’m also a student, always a student. I have plenty of flaws. Takes lifetimes to overcome, so there is no need to rush if this is true work we do.

      Anyway, I hope that answered your question.

      Thanks for the feedback about the trailer. Maybe wordy, but I had the back cover explained in it, so that’s why.

      Thanks SO much for stopping by. Glad you liked the butterfly analogy. That’s how it appears to me.

  • at 6:04 am

    Hey Dana,

    Glad to read your wonderful post and I totally agree with your points. Awareness of the mind and how to direct its thoughts, beliefs and emotions, opens new avenues of possibility.

    Your life becomes vastly different when you are the one directing your mind instead of letting it direct you. Self awareness provides the possibility to catch your self in that moment prior to saying something destructive, or thinking and believing a negative thought. Eventually, thanks for sharing your experience with us.

    With best wishes,

    Amar kumar

    • at 2:00 pm

      Hi Amar,

      This —> “Self-awareness provides the possibility to catch yourself in that moment prior to saying something destructive, or thinking and believing a negative thought.”
      Yep. That’s what it is. I talk a lot about that in chapters 1 and 2 in the book. It’s been an amazing way for me to practice being an observer. Not so easy to do, especially when you don’t know to do it. Then remembering this when you’re not conscious (which is most of the time) is the key.

      We get so busy being in the world that we become OF it (as I mentioned in the above comment). Choosing awareness is just that. A choice. Not an easy one either – and there’s no end date. No goal.

      I appreciate your insights and the fact that you read this and took the time to comment.
      Thanks so much 🙂


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