When You Change the Way You Look at Things…

Do you know that it’s possible to open your mind? Are you aware that there are numerous perspectives available in which to view reality? If you didn’t, then hopefully you’ll feel somewhat enlightened by the time you finish reading this….because this understanding has been a huge blessing in my life.

How much time have you spent in your life seeing things the way you’ve always seen them?

Do you question things?

Do you ever ask yourself if the thoughts you think, and the beliefs you hold make you happy?

Standing still – aka, believing your mind – is an option.

Regardless of what you’ve ever been taught, you do have the freedom to view your reality from multiple angles. Once this is understood, a world of possibilities opens up.

Let’s say for example that you are standing in front of a giant triangle. I know, big triangles happen to be everywhere. I see them all over the place too (kidding). But for the sake the of the message, just stay with me here.

So you’re standing in front of this convincing shape. It is what it is, right? Or maybe not…

You’re standing still – looking at something from one point of view.

But what happens if you move around a bit?

When You Change the Way You Look at Things…

…the things you look at change

This is a quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer.

It has come in handy for me quite often throughout my life. It seems these days, I need to remember this gem of wisdom as often as possible.

When we see things as they appear, we have to remember just that.

Things are as they appear. But this doesn’t mean it’s how they have to be.

Once you realize you have freedom of movement (questioning your thoughts and beliefs), you realize that you have permission to relinquish your position. Once you do this, what do you find?

You find that this triangle has dimensions beyond the flat shape that it originally appeared to be. In fact, if you move around a lot, you’ll see it not only has other sides, but multiple functions and additional shapes altogether.

You had convinced yourself for so long that what you saw was a triangle and nothing else – but now, with a little movement, you realize that it’s in fact –

a pyramid.

And what happens if it doesn’t stop there?

What if – there’s an additional point of view?

Move around a little more and you may just discover a diamond (I chose my image intentionally) 😉

So what does this mean?

It means that standing still creates only one possibility.

One reality.

We already know we aren’t limited to a two-dimensional physical reality, so why would we live this way in our minds?

We do this because we weren’t aware that there was another way. We don’t question things, so we believe what we see. We’re told the story of how life works by others who were told the same story – and no one ever thinks to question the storytellers.

Well I’m questioning the storytellers.

And guess what?

I think most of them are only dispensing what they’ve been taught.

What they have personally experienced.

But when you decide to stand back, observe, move around a bit and walk around the triangle, you’ll understand that…

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Applying This Wisdom

Wisdom is the application of knowledge.

It’s easy to know things. It’s even easy to apply the new knowledge when things are seemingly ok.

It’s when life kicks our ass that it becomes tough.

Things seem so solid. So set in their ways.

That triangle won’t budge. It’s just sitting there. Huge and heavy.


Sometimes things won’t move – but when we do, the image changes.

I’m watching people everywhere get hit by life these days. Whether it’s through business, relationships or their health – things appear dark and hopeless.

And I’m not sitting here typing these words from some high and mighty place telling you it’s going to be ok because I’m feeling ok.

In fact, I don’t feel ok lately.

Life is hitting me too.

I use well-being as my response to adversity , but believe me when I say that I’m right there with you.

I also wonder sometimes how I’ll get through the day.

I stay involved in the creative process and sharing my insights with you.

It makes the journey a little sweeter to know there are others like you who get it. Maybe it does the same for you.

At least, I sure hope it does.

Now I’ve attained a lot of insight over the last several years.

Sometimes these downloads of info are so astounding – it’s as if the heavens are speaking directly to me.

I have no idea where this stuff comes from.

I only know it’s coming from someplace more powerful and expansive than my limited ego personality.

The trick is to use the tools I’ve acquired during these times when I’m down. That’s the key to transcending the human condition and the painful circumstances of life.

So I write these words to tell you that even though your blog may have been compromised my search engine companies…

Or you’re health has taken an unexpected turn…

Or you’ve lost your job/ relationship/ financial well-being –

Change the way you look at things. You may not what to look for and that’s ok.

Just move around a bit.

You do this by getting curious.

Curiosity didn’t kill the cat. It gave him nine lives.

How can the same freakin cat have two completely different metaphors?

By the ninth life, he wouldn’t be curious any longer.

He’d be wise.

And old.

Ready to go onto to other adventures.

Just go with my analogy. It’s nicer.

It’s also more accurate.

I am my own storyteller. I AM my imagination.

You can use this way of looking at the world in regard to anything. Your relationships, beliefs, thoughts, perspective of self, etc.

Maybe it’s time to restrategize your way of doing things.

Perhaps things haven’t been working out for a while and you needed to experience pain or intense discomfort to make some necessary alterations to start living in alignment with your truth.

The answers don’t lie outside of us. All we see out there are the effects.

The effects will change when the cause does. It’s a Natural Law of life.

We’re experiencing the deconstruction of systems, choices, and perspectives that may no longer serve us.

It’s possible they never really did to begin with.

Just keep this in mind.

We’re in this together.

People are being called to lift one another up. Not to be victims of circumstances, but to assume full responsibility for our role in things and remind one another of their greatness and support each other’s endeavors.

It may not be clear how we contribute to that which we experience, but my friend Sylviane explains it so well in her blog. It’s worth it to check her out.

And in the meantime, know this:

I may need to be reminded of these words someday. That day may be tomorrow.

I’m hoping you’ll be there for me when I need someone to help lift me up when I’m too tired to do it on my own.

So I hope this provides you with the strength you need when you need it most.

Watch this video. Dr. Dyer was so cool.

Don’t look for your keys where you haven’t dropped them.

That’ll make sense in about 3 minutes from now.

So, what are your thoughts? Have you ever challenged your mind? I’d love to hear about it.

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Author of the books "A Simple Guide to Exercise Safety (What You Don't Know CAN Hurt You)" and "Streetwise Philosophy (A Bullshit-Free Approach to Spiritual Maturity)", Dana Gore is a health and fitness professional, wellness coach, and freelance writer. Dana brings guidance to the public about how to achieve optimal health in a safe and structured manner while inspiring her readers to seek self-awareness and inner peace as a means to well-being in all areas of life.

30 thoughts on “When You Change the Way You Look at Things…

  • at 10:21 pm

    Hey Dana,

    I tend to believe that for probably 95% of the things we believe we go through that this is the way to go. When we think about it, life really isn’t that hard or difficult or depressing to the extend that we can’t find some contentment in it, maybe even happiness.

    Course, that other 5% can be crushing or at least depressing. I had mainly a bad day today with a couple of things that came out of nowhere. It messed up my mind for when I had lunch with a friend and I feel bad about that because she’s going through her own stuff. I had to come home and get into bed and just lie there for a while (the best part about being self employed).

    And then… I worked my way out of it. First I talked to one friend and then I went for a long walk outside and finally talked to another friend and then my wife. I won’t say I’m 100% but I’m back around 90% and that’s not bad; that plus at some point I’ll have another story to tell. 🙂

    So it works… but sometimes it takes work.

    • at 10:54 am

      Hi Mitch,

      Yes, sometimes it does take work.
      I’m glad you were able to find some activities that brought you joy.

      To respond to what you said about life not necessarily being that hard – I have often stopped in the middle of my thoughts and asked, “is this negative thing I’m focusing on happening right now?”

      I usually find that I’m somewhere by myself, not engaging in anything in particular. The negativity I feel is coming from my own mind, and I remind myself to stop it immediately because I’m creating it.

      Sometimes you can know something, but you still have to practice the tools of choosing awareness.

      When you do, you discover you’re seeing a situation one way (usually based on your feelings about it), but there are numerous ways to perceive things. Just takes being open to knowing that anything can work itself out, you just don’t know how yet.

      I know your friend’s problems made you feel sad, but I’m thinking that just by spending time with you, it made her feel better. You gave her a shoulder, and that in and of itself can make such a huge impact.

      I’ve also been around people who were going through very difficult times, but somehow, things worked themselves out in ways no one would have thought about.

      Those are some of the most interesting events to witness – and it’s part of what inspired this post.

      I’m glad you stopped by Mitch. Thanks so much for contributing 🙂

  • at 6:02 pm

    I love that quote from Dr. Dyer, Dana! Hadn’t actually seen this video before, though.

    I believe that thoughts certainly become things… just not necessarily in the way “The Secret” (the book or film) describes it. Ya know, the universal law of attraction and all that jazz…

    But I do believe that what we think about most influences our actions. And our actions cause change (or lack of it).

    Thinking I’m a millionaire doesn’t make me any richer. But thinking about making positive financial changes in my life can certainly start to make me wealthier.

    Our mindset influences a lot… not because of universal cosmic powers, but because our thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes are ultimately reflected in our actions, goals, and passions.

    So when Dr. Dyer talks about changing the way we look at things, yes. I believe this can have a profound impact on our lives.

    But that’s because we begin acting differently when our minds are made up differently.

    A mentor of mine once told me, “The human mind is plastic, not elastic. Once you stretch it, it never goes back to its original shape.”

    In other words, when we challenge our own way of thinking, our lives are irreversibly changed.

    I imagine this is part of the reason why my father always told me not to make decisions if I am upset. Because when I calm down, my perspective might be totally different.

    Anyway, I’m rambling a bit here… great post, and great food for thought.



    • at 6:28 pm

      Hey Brent,

      Yep – I love that quote from Dr. Dyer as well.

      Your Dad was spot on with what he said about not making decisions when you’re upset. I follow that advice and it has served me well.

      Everything we do is a reflection (or reaction) to what’s going on within. So when we change the way we look at things, we can take that loss of a job and even though it may not change the situation itself, the way we perceive it can profoundly influence its impact on us – and subsequent actions.

      It’s what can make the same situation either a blessing in disguise, or a curse.

      Totally not rambling. You brought up some great points.
      Glad you enjoyed the video. I think it was from his PBS special talking about his book “The Power of Intention.”
      This approach has served me well over the years – and considering how many people out there have lost their jobs, relationships, etc…it’s a way to use hindsight (that thing that tends to produce clarity) in the present moment.

      Thanks so much for stopping by Brent 🙂

  • at 10:16 pm

    Hi, thanks for sharing a well explained post. i totally agree that changing the way we look at things changes everything. Great read.

    • at 5:52 pm

      Welcome to my blog 🙂

      Glad you liked the post. I did my best to explain it clearly.

      Yep, changing the way we look at things may not change the situation itself, but it does offer us options in our perception and subsequent response. It can make the biggest impact.

      Thanks so much for stopping by.

  • at 12:16 pm

    Dana, great blog post. I will revisit it.I love Dr. Dyer, he has some real wisdom.
    It seems that many of us are caught up in the limits of the here and now. In fact all of us. There is,security in the solid, concrete realities we live in because of our finite mind and being. Yet, we truly are also spirit with infinite being and there is another reality behind a curtain, presently. It seems some of us curious ones find a glimpse of our future destiny and signs are everywhere. But so many of us have clouded vision, broken hearts and sense of hopelessness. Putting our hope in another, for me it is Jesus and His Mom (she is an example of purity of faith for me…along with Abraham). Putting hope and faith in the goodness of God often opens spiritual eyes and hearts. I have seen way to many unexplained miracles to hold onto any confused glimmer of atheistic thinking. As to the explanation of cruelty and suffering….that is rooted in human woundedness and not the perfect will of God. He gave us freewill, so we mess up His beauty. …not Him.

    • at 2:39 pm

      Hi Paula,

      Welcome to my blog 🙂

      I know what you mean about feeling brokenhearted and hopeless. It’s exactly why I wrote about this.

      It’s so tough sometimes to keep an open mind when things are lousy. So easy to give up. It’s in understanding that things move and change – but WE play a role in this through our perception that we can navigate through the pain and possibly even turn it into a blessing.

      I’ve done it many times. It’s the ONLY reason I have ANY knowledge of this.

      As far as the finite mind and being – luckily I’ve learned that this is just a small fraction of who we are and what we’re capable of experiencing – especially when we stay locked in this. The clouded vision you mentioned is through being stuck in our beliefs and stories. It’s inflexibility.

      I’m intrigued by the title of your post, so expect a visit from me soon 🙂

      Thanks so much for stopping by.

  • at 1:11 am

    Hi Dana,

    So first, I totally agree that you can change your outcomes by trying different things.

    You can get out of feeling powerless by doing little things every day that move you forward.

    You need to have a plan, and never let a day go by that you don’t work on that.

    I’d also say though, that reaching your goals requires that you are able to see things for what they are.

    While we all have different perspectives (subjective ideas) as to what the “triangle” appears to be, let’s not overlook the fact the same triangle has it’s own objective reality (it’s intrinsic truth) that is independent of various subjective opinions and beliefs about it. It is, at the end of the day, a triangle, no matter who sees it from what angle and no matter what conclusions they come to as a result of their perspectives.

    So while things might seem to be an illusion, if we dig deeper and understand that we are limited in our ability to see all things from all angles, we can find the truth that underlies. That truth is what we really are, and what we truly can be.

    Thanks for a thought-provoking article here, Dana.

    It reminds me that while we all see things differently, we are unified in being part of a much bigger picture.


    • at 2:30 pm

      Hi Donna,

      Thanks for all of that.
      You added a “down to Earth” aspect to the post, which I appreciate.

      I feel that if we can get to a place where we observe with a sense of neutrality, it’s easier to see the “what is” of a situation as it is. Without being emotionally intertwined in it (but using the emotions as our internal guidance system), we get to see effects as they are.

      Just effects.

      The subjective part comes in when we allow ourselves to question the immovability of the effects. And this is where the taking action and the goals come in because without hope (seeing things as solid and not flexible), it’s so easy to give up. By remaining open-minded and moving around a bit, creativity comes in and we realize that what we’re seeing/ experiencing may not be as bad as it seems. We just define things that way.

      All of it easier said than done. Even with the knowledge, it takes practicing it on a regular basis.
      Every time I go through adversity (like lately), it’s this understanding that keeps me going. It’s the act of practicing Faith when there seems to be no evidence of anything good in sight.
      Hindsight offers a much bigger picture, so I try to use hindsight in the present moment. Changing the way I look at things is how I’m able to do this.

      I love what you said about seeing things differently but being unified in a much bigger picture. I couldn’t have said it better myself.

      I appreciate your contribution Donna. As always, thanks for bringing value.

  • at 4:57 pm

    Hey Dana,

    I love this post and it resonates with me.

    I am absolutely aware that the way I look at things affect my outcomes in life.

    As a matter of fact, I enjoy listening to this podcast called Brain Software. I was listening to an older episode on reframing earlier this week. Then I played around with my beliefs later that day and immediately noticed subtle shifts in my attitude. It’s amazing how it works.

    The thing is, I need to keep bringing awareness to my beliefs because they are often unconscious and new ones slip in all the time. I can choose a new direction once consciously ask ourselves how I feel about something.

    I am also reading a wonderful book right now called Radical Acceptance by Tara Bach. It’s about experiencing things without labeling it and attaching to it. So far it’s a great read and probably very helpful for those in hard times.

    Thank you for writing this from the heart. Enjoy the rest of your weekend now.

    – Jasper

    • at 2:14 pm

      Hi Jasper,

      Welcome to my blog 🙂

      I totally get what you’re saying about beliefs. They run our lives – and most of them are unquestioned.
      They build up over time and become our story. Then things become solid and seemingly unmoveable.

      Remembering to be an observer of our thoughts is a tough thing to do – especially with regularity. I have to remind myself of the necessity to do this because I know how easy it is to get caught up in my inner-dialogue.

      When I observe, I remind myself that my physical mind only sees the world from the ground. When in a place of higher awareness (observing), I can see there’s a view from the mountain top as well.

      I haven’t heard of the books you mentioned, but I’ll check them out. I’m always up for this type of info, so thanks for sharing that.

      Yes, I wrote this from the heart. Tough for me to write about anything else.

      Thanks so much for stopping by. Enjoy your week.

  • at 6:36 pm

    I love this post and this attitude. This is an outlook I try to hold on to even when life is throwing me curve balls.

    • at 11:14 am

      Hi Cynthia,

      Thanks so much 🙂

      As we both know, it isn’t always easy, but remembering this does enable comfort, growth. and possibilities.
      Everything moves, everything vibrates…

  • at 9:58 pm

    Hi Dana. Obi-Wan Kenobi said in one of the Star Wars movies, “You’re going to find that many of the truths we cling to depend greatly on our own point of view.”

    I think one of the keys is to figure out whose point of view you are actually using, and what’s in it for them if you have that point of view? For example, if you read CNN.com (or any other news outlet), you may become convinced that the world is a very dark place and that if the planet itself isn’t trying to kill you, then the people on it are. They want you to stay on their website and increase their ad revenue.

    I’ve been laid off from a few jobs in the past. You can look at it from the perspective that you no longer have an income or you can see it as an opportunity to do something bigger and better. After the initial shock, which usually lasted until I made it to my car, I was usually hit with a great feeling of freedom.

    The most important thing to always remember is that we get to choose. That is our power.

    • at 5:10 pm

      Hey Ben,

      Always cool to see you here 🙂

      Obi-Wan Kenobi was right. I had actually come up with a quote a while back (which has been memed) that said “truth…is often confused for an opinion based on a lifetime of conditioning”.
      That showed up in my life a few years ago as I watched the world deconstruct (in my mind’s eye). I realized how programmed we were and that much of what we had considered to be objectively true were nothing more than the thoughts, opinions and beliefs we’ve been handed and taught throughout our lives by others who repeated the same patterns.

      So, back to neutral I suppose. That’s where I’ve been ever since. The observer.

      Your example of losing your job is spot on. Depending on how you look at it, some people could consider it a disaster while others have found the freedom they craved. All depends on the perspective you choose.

      I have NO doubt about the news outlets and their influence on our overall mindsets. Here, you see stories of people harming one another everywhere you look. But of you look around even more, you’ll come across individuals who are doing wonderful things to improve life here – demonstrating acts of compassion, community and care.

      If we move around, we see more.
      Not always easy to do in the moment, but it is possible. This is when the circumstances change. Not because they change, but because our definition of them expands.

      So your last comment included LOTR. This one – Star Wars.
      I think a lot of these films dispense deep wisdom hidden in a story.
      I recently watched “The Dark Crystal” – which is a kids movie from the early 80s. I discovered some interesting and enlightening concepts in that one.

      Thanks for stopping by Ben. Enjoy the weekend.

      • at 6:10 pm

        I love the Dark Crystal too. Jim Henson knew some things. Listen to the song, “Can You Picture That” performed by the Electric Mayhem in the Muppet Movie. I have never heard a better recipe for manifestation.

        • at 11:11 am

          Thanks for that Ben.
          Just watched the video. I may use this in a post.

          I have no doubt Jim Henson knew some things. I think many of these filmmakers/ authors do. A lot of esoteric wisdom gets disguised in fiction.

  • at 6:30 am

    Change and adaptation are human nature and we react according to the situation. But the way we look at things are the perception of the society in which we live. There we made friends, which guide us and tell us, where we are wrong and need improvement in personality.

    I believe to be a positive person in life, acceptance is must.

    • at 6:50 pm

      Hi Julian,

      Welcome to my blog 🙂

      Change is definitely a part of life. Of Nature.
      Adaptation, to me anyway, is part of the human experience. Sometimes this works in our favor. Other times it can allow things to creep up that may not be so desirable – but we accept it because we condition ourselves to do so.

      Yep, our friends and loved ones here can be helpful in guiding us to provide feedback. I like to listen, observe and then go within to see how I feel about it. Sometimes the info is valuable and leads to insight. Other times, it’s just their opinions.

      Acceptance is valuable. Lack of it leads to struggling.

      Glad you found your way here. Thanks so much for stopping by 🙂

  • at 2:52 am

    Hi Dana,

    What an amazing post!

    I completely agree with you, reality is just perception, and we have to learn to expand our minds to see all the wonderful opportunities that are opening up to us. This can really help us when we don’t feel well.

    I had to do this all my life because of my health problems. That’s what prevented me from becoming depressed, and it helped me to see all the amazing possibilities that were offered to me in my life and to put my health issues aside.

    I was sorry to read that you weren’t feeling well. I hope you are doing better! If you need anything, don’t hesitate to ask. Just like you said, we’re in this together!

    Take care of yourself, gf! Happy Thursday! ?


    • at 6:42 pm

      Hey Nataly,

      I had heard someone say that Truth is what has happened and what is happening.
      To experience truth, we align our perceptions to be able to discern it.

      To me, this means that if we stay open to all possibilities (and especially what lives within our minds), we expand our levels of awareness to the point where we see more than simply what’s in front of us. We question things and become seekers.

      And then we become insightful.

      I know about your health problems and I have a feeling it’s your awesome attitude that keeps you in good shape. Everyone has the choice to be a victim of circumstances. Clearly, you don’t see things that way. I find it refreshing.

      As far as not feeling so well, my best insights and growth come from the dark times. The opportunities to USE the tools I acquire when I’m feeling well-connected to the gems of wisdom that show up for me. It’s easy to “stay positive” when you’re happy and things are fine. But to use what you’ve learned when life is kicking your ass – now that’s something else.

      I stay somewhat transparent here because I know that when people seek inspiration, it helps to connect with the one dispensing it. I do that here, but I like to let others know I get it. Life kicks my ass too. And this is how I handle it when it does.

      I love seeing your comments here Nataly. Thanks so much for stopping by 🙂

  • at 9:14 am

    So inspiring Dana. I question everything, which is something that used to make everyone crazy when I worked at a traditional job. I believe that for most of us “reality” comes down to perception. I read an interesting study a while back about how you can present a fact to someone, but if it doesn’t align with their version of reality they will either adjust their interpretation until it does or reject it outright. I think this is one reason why two people can read the same book, or attend the same lecture and end up with completely different interpretations. People are so fascinating. Anyway, wonderful article as always!

    • at 6:27 pm

      Hi Marquita,

      Yep – like you, I question things too. Did this all my life, but I never asked those questions out loud because I didn’t think I’d get the answers I was looking for.

      Perception does help create reality. I’ve decided it was my job to do the best I can to see things as clearly as possible to enable my perspective to closely align with Truth. This involves seeing multiple angles – and going within to see how my own judgments and limited views cloud things.

      It’s so true that two people can read the same book, watch the same film and even have the same upbringing and have completely different experiences of it. It shapes their lives – and I can’t help but find that fascinating.

      I’m glad you found this inspiring. As always, I enjoy your contribution to the discussion Marquita 🙂

  • at 3:15 pm

    Hey Dana,

    It’s funny how we put ourselves in a rock and a hard place. We never tend to think about how many options we have.

    We hinder ourselves from looking at the plethora of perceptions there are to get out of situations.

    We are taught certain things thinking that’s the only perception and then we grow up. I attended Christian schools from age 3 up until I graduated from high school at age 18, and yes there was a lot of indoctrination going on.

    Then reality of this world hit. I started to understand why different people did the things they did despite whether it was right or wrong from that Christian background I grew up in, although some of the christian teachings were also contradicting.

    But either case, we tend to free ourselves from the limited perceptions we were taught and it’s very refreshing.

    I was looking at a video that may add to this post and what Wayne was saying. It digresses a little, but he’s basically saying the same thing. For some reason I wasn’t able to past the URL here, but if you go to youtube in type in KRS 1 “Stop Stagnating Yourself with “GUILT” you’ll be able to see it.

    • at 6:22 pm

      Hi Sherman,

      We sure do place ourselves in between a rock and a hard place. I’ve done it to myself many times simply by not staying open to possibilities. This creates a lack of freedom of choice – a self-induced limitation.

      I’m sure growing up – being raised with strict belief systems can contribute to observing contradictions. Any strong belief systems we pick up along the way can restrict freedom of thought. While there is wisdom in many of the teachings out there, there is also human interpretation of these teachings.
      So it’s up to us to “know thyself.” It isn’t something that can be taught (in my humble opinion) but more like something that can only be experienced when ready.

      And each individual has their own awakening – filled with gems based on the path they’ve chosen for their life.

      I’ll check out that video. Yeah, due to the issues with blogging and commenting, I think I have it set up so that links don’t paste. If I could individualize this option, obviously you and others I know would be able to do it since I trust you.

      I appreciate your visit Sherman. Thanks so much for stopping by 🙂

  • at 12:07 pm

    Hi Dana,

    So profound.
    You make it seem simple…and it might be but
    I’ve found it takes an effort on my part to get in contact with
    the other me that is in charge.

    Then make a few changes.

    Skipper Works

    • at 10:54 am

      Hi Cararta,

      Thank-you 🙂

      It is simple, but simplicity and ease aren’t one in the same – so in this case, I’ll never say it’s easy.

      We all have a “me” that is our ego and an “I” that is the true self.
      The ego is made up of all of the thoughts, experiences, beliefs, etc. It’s the identification with form.
      The “I” is the expanded, infinite aspect of us. The observer.

      When we step back and assume the role of the “I”, we can witness the “me” at work. Having this awareness (which took me a lot of time to understand) is the key to changing the way we look at things because we are no longer just the participant, but the one who watches the scene play out from multiple angles.

      That’s when you see beyond what appears to be right in front of you (or even within you for that matter).
      Even just stepping back and asking yourself “what am I thinking/ witnessing?” can help to start this process.

      That’s what worked for me anyway.

      I appreciate your visit and comment. Thanks so much for stopping by 🙂

  • at 8:30 am

    Hi Dana,

    First off, I’m so sorry that you’ve not been feeling well lately, and by the way, not that I feel that I have all the answers, but if you needed to chat about anything, I’m always available you know. I’m not that busy that I can’t make room.

    It’s all coming from us, no doubt. EVERYTHING.

    I’ve read lately that study shows that blind people tend to age slower physically than people who can see, because they can’t compare with anyone what you’re “supposed” to look like at a certain age. I totally get that, because I’ve always believed that most people do age according to their own beliefs. I’ve seen that with people around me as well.

    A couple of months ago, I fell to the ground 2 times and hurt myself kinda bad, and I knew why I fell. I fell because I felt hurt because of my brother. So that psychological hurt translated in me hurting myself physically.

    Since I don’t believe in coincidences and know that everything happens for a reason, I feel that it was the Universe showing me that I was hurt from the inside. So I started to do some EFT about my issues with my brother and it really calmed things down. EFT is great therapy for me, right at my fingertips (literally).

    I love that video. Yes, we do that all the time. We have a problem and we look outside of us to find the problem. Great analogy he found too.

    Thanks for your great post, and sharing.


    • at 1:39 pm

      Hi Sylviane,

      I appreciate that my friend.
      Things will be fine. As you know, I like to share some of my personal experiences through my posts because I know we ALL go through stuff. As easy as it would be to sit here and dispense advice or insight to those seeking it, if I can share how I use my own advice as I go through stuff, it’s far more powerful.

      I would totally take you up on chatting though. I’d love that.

      I’m sorry you got hurt and I hope you’re doing better. I have no doubt that what we carry around inside of us creates physical circumstances.

      I remember one time I was overloaded with tasks to complete. I felt so overwhelmed and stressed over it.
      I had wished I would get sick so I’d have a valid excuse to avoid it – and sure enough, I did get sick. That’s how powerful inner-conversations are.

      I’ve heard about EFT, but haven’t put a lot of time into practicing it. I’ll have to revisit that.
      Anything we do to release what controls us from within is valuable.

      Thanks so much for stopping by Sylviane. I’ll be in touch 🙂


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