I had to add “Lose Weight Quickly” to the title of this post because it seems that’s what the majority of people are looking for.
It pains me to say it too because in order to lose it the right way, quickly isn’t gonna cut it.
Let’s face it – chances are, you didn’t gain the weight overnight. There could be any number of reasons you put it on – whether it’s from pregnancy, medication, a medical condition or a lifetime of unhealthy habits.
Unfortunately, though, you undoubtedly see a lot of hype out there offering promises about how to get what you want (like yesterday) – as long as you whip out your wallet and purchase whatever miracle remedy is being promoted. It could be a supplement, fitness program or new diet.
I won’t say that none of them work either.
Some do. In fact, there are plenty of worthwhile products and programs that’ll give you fast results.
I’m not here to knock any of them either. That’s not how I roll.
However, I do wish you convey to you that your mindset is everything.
I’m not talking loosely about “mind over matter” type of stuff. I’m just stating that for you to change your body, you’ll have to shift your perspective first.
It requires thinking differently.
More accurately, it takes being different.
You’ll need to question your thoughts and beliefs.
You can change your habits –
Once life comes along and pulls your strings, the real you always comes back up to the surface.
If you want to make long lasting changes, you’ll need to change who you ARE. Then what you DO will change naturally.
So how do you use this information in a practical way?
Here are a few things you’ll want to think about.
Lose Weight Quickly (or do it the right way)
Before I go on, I’ll mention I understand that when it comes to motivation, seeing results helps to keep you going.
Doing something in a slow but methodical way doesn’t seem aggressive enough for someone who’s frustrated over their current circumstances and desires relief quickly.
You feel like you’re doing the work, but unless you experience the fruits of your labor, you figure your efforts are being wasted.
I get that. I’ve been there. Sometimes I still experience this feeling regarding other goals I’m working toward.
But I also understand the value of a solid foundation.
When it comes to getting fast results, especially when it comes to weight loss – it’s easy to let your mind wander to some of those weight loss shows where the contestants drop a ton of weight every week. They’re even penalized if they don’t lose enough of it as quickly as possible.
Doing things the right way isn’t dramatic, and it doesn’t pull in high ratings – so it’s “go balls to the wall or go home.”
But if you’ve been paying attention, you’ll have noticed that many of these people haven’t kept the weight off. Most of them have put it back on – with additional health complications as well.
That’s a huge blow for people who put everything they had into their program.
We all know the type of motivation to work that hard doesn’t come easily…so when you’ve had it and took action from a place of all or nothing thinking – it’s when you need that “extreme” level of intensity again that presents the biggest hurdle you’ll face.
There’s a way to use different motivating factors to help you reach a goal – and others that work when it comes to maintaining the results.
Balance, self-awareness, and a calm/ rational mind are the necessary components if you want to lose weight the right way.
Some of the ways to use this to your advantage are:
- Feel (and OBSERVE) your emotions about your current weight
- Practice self-awareness
- Make well-being your ultimate goal
- Ignore what society says about beauty and self-worth
1 – Feel (and OBSERVE) your emotions about your current weight
We cannot change what we don’t acknowledge.
But we also won’t take deliberate and conscious action toward wellness from a place of emotional turmoil.
It’s clear you’re unhappy (flat out miserable) about your weight. That’s understandable.
But while you’re in the midst of feeling your emotions over this, step back and witness yourself.
Observe the thoughts running through your mind.
Look at the intensity of the how frustrated you are.
Does this make you want to solve the problem as quickly as possible to experience a sense of relief?
Chances are, it does. This is why people choose fad diets and unsafe exercise programs to give them what they want as soon as possible.
This isn’t the way you want to go about this.
You want to do this from an emotionally sound place. This is why observing your feelings is a wise thing to do.
~ Jot down your thoughts and emotions. All of them.
~ Just get them out.
~ Then look at them objectively.
ALWAYS view yourself from the standpoint of an observer. There’s the “you” that interacts with reality – and the you that watches.
Know the difference. It counts. It matters – and it changes things.
For more on what that means, learn more about your ego.
2 – Practice self-awareness
To piggyback on what I’ve just said, self-awareness plays a bigger role in your habits than your behavior does.
This is because everything you DO is a result of who you ARE.
When you take action, you’re doing so from a combination of external stimuli (information and circumstances) and your inner world (your thoughts and beliefs).
When you become self-aware, you know what pulls your strings.
You’re in touch with the recordings that play out in your mind. These messages are responsible for how you react to your world – and THE world.
If you want to do this the right way, you’ll need to make “knowing thyself” a priority.
~ What pushes your buttons?
~ What makes you act?
~ Who/ what influences you?
~ What are you saying to yourself (that you aren’t even aware of)?
Have you ever thought how abusive you’d sound if you said to others what you say to yourself?
Imagine what your self-criticism would sound like if you said these things to someone else.
“Gosh, your thighs are jiggly.”
“Your ass is so flat. No man would ever want to be seen with you.”
“OMG – when you waved at me, all I could see were your arms flapping in the wind. Too bad you can’t fly.”
“You’ve always been fat and you never succeed. Why try again? You’ll fail.”
“You’re just ugly. Seriously, no one could love you.”
“Damn, your breasts are really sagging there. I thought you were about to trip over them.”
“What the fuck is going on with your face? It looks like a crumpled up paper bag.”
I personally heard someone say that last line about themselves.
These are just a few of the things we say to ourselves.
You’ve gotta stop that…but you won’t until you know you’re doing it.
It won’t end there either.
It’ll really stop once you no longer BELIEVE what you say to yourself.
You ARE your imagination.
So again practice self-awareness. Then sit back and observe what’s inside of you.
3 – Make well-being your ultimate goal
Once you’ve accomplished the first two steps, you’ll probably be amazed to discover that your inner world is sick.
I’m not trying to be rude or insensitive. I’m just calling it as I see it.
I’ve been there. I’ve done what I’m suggesting, so I’m in no position to put your down (nor would I want to).
But because I’ve done the work, I get it. This is what I’m teaching you.
When you’ve realized you’re sick, you have to decide to get well.
What does well-being look like?
Is it about looking like a fitness model?
Does it involve simply being healthy?
Is it geared toward being attractive/ well-liked/ accepted/ dateable?
What does it mean to you to be a healthy individual?
I’ll tell you this:
You can’t be well with a sick mind.
Clarify what true wellness means to you (hint: it isn’t about what society says).
4 – Ignore what society says about beauty and self-worth
Society is filled with information.
You see the magazines and billboards telling you what it means to be beautiful.
You watch the tell-a-vision programs suggesting that the love of your life will fall at your feet if they think you’re gorgeous and you’ll live happily ever after.
What will your fabulous partner do if you get sick, lose your hair, let your six pack abs soften and suddenly become normal looking?
How many times have you heard about spouses or partners suddenly wanting to break up because their significant other isn’t as attractive to them any longer?
And how often has someone who was considered beautiful lost their partner to someone else who was just as good looking?
Let me tell you something folks –
Your well-being has nothing to do with your looks.
But true wellness (the real kind) is what makes your eyes shine, your heart swell and it oozes out of you.
It’s what makes you light up the room.
It’s why you’re a good person. One the world needs.
I’m gonna say this and I hope you’ll let it sink in…
The world has no shortages of tight asses, big tits and washboard abs. What it IS lacking is heart, true consciousness and people who treat themselves with CARE.
Well-being is about care.
When ALL four of the ingredients come together:
~ A genuine desire for well-being
~ A healthy distance from the group thinking process of society –
You’ll have the perfect formula for losing your weight (along with a hunk of other emotional baggage) the right way.
But Doesn’t Eating Right and Exercising Count?
Yes, it does.
But more than that, your ideas about well-being and a good understanding of your self-imposed limitations will be what decides how you handle a “diet and exercise” program.
When healthy living is your ultimate goal, you become someone who lives that way.
It isn’t about what you do, it’s about who you are.
You don’t want to practice some new behaviors with an end date in mind if longevity is what you’re after. Short terms goals are helpful and can provide temporary motivation – but you want to go beyond that.
You want to kick this nasty annoyance in your life good-bye once and for all. You’ll do that when you’ve changed your inner world.
I want to leave you with a short video. This is a recent interview I did with Carl over at goodbooks.online (whom I’ll be introducing you to in a week or two).
The topic is exercise safety and how to go about your healthy living program in a safe and structured manner.
Believe it or not, getting in shape could be hazardous to your health if you aren’t aware of some of the hidden dangers that lurk beneath the surface.
These are things you need to know about.
So watch the video, check out the post and grab a copy of my exercise safety book. The information could literally save your life.
Over to you.
Does this make sense to you? Do you see why you don’t want to rush the process?
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