Lose Weight Quickly (or do it the right way)

I had to add “Lose Weight Quickly” to the title of this post because it seems that’s what the majority of people are looking for.

It pains me to say it too because in order to lose it the right way, quickly isn’t gonna cut it.

Let’s face it – chances are, you didn’t gain the weight overnight. There could be any number of reasons you put it on – whether it’s from pregnancy, medication, a medical condition or a lifetime of unhealthy habits.

Unfortunately, though, you undoubtedly see a lot of hype out there offering promises about how to get what you want (like yesterday) – as long as you whip out your wallet and purchase whatever miracle remedy is being promoted. It could be a supplement, fitness program or new diet.

I won’t say that none of them work either.

Some do. In fact, there are plenty of worthwhile products and programs that’ll give you fast results.

I’m not here to knock any of them either. That’s not how I roll.

However, I do wish you convey to you that your mindset is everything.

I’m not talking loosely about “mind over matter” type of stuff. I’m just stating that for you to change your body, you’ll have to shift your perspective first.

It requires thinking differently.

More accurately, it takes being different.

You’ll need to question your thoughts and beliefs.

You can change your habits –

But –

Once life comes along and pulls your strings, the real you always comes back up to the surface.

This means:

If you want to make long lasting changes, you’ll need to change who you ARE. Then what you DO will change naturally.

So how do you use this information in a practical way?

Here are a few things you’ll want to think about.

Lose Weight Quickly (or do it the right way)

Before I go on, I’ll mention I understand that when it comes to motivation, seeing results helps to keep you going.

Doing something in a slow but methodical way doesn’t seem aggressive enough for someone who’s frustrated over their current circumstances and desires relief quickly.

You feel like you’re doing the work, but unless you experience the fruits of your labor, you figure your efforts are being wasted.

I get that. I’ve been there. Sometimes I still experience this feeling regarding other goals I’m working toward.

But I also understand the value of a solid foundation.

When it comes to getting fast results, especially when it comes to weight loss – it’s easy to let your mind wander to some of those weight loss shows where the contestants drop a ton of weight every week. They’re even penalized if they don’t lose enough of it as quickly as possible.

Doing things the right way isn’t dramatic, and it doesn’t pull in high ratings – so it’s “go balls to the wall or go home.”

But if you’ve been paying attention, you’ll have noticed that many of these people haven’t kept the weight off. Most of them have put it back on – with additional health complications as well.

That’s a huge blow for people who put everything they had into their program.

We all know the type of motivation to work that hard doesn’t come easily…so when you’ve had it and took action from a place of all or nothing thinking – it’s when you need that “extreme” level of intensity again that presents the biggest hurdle you’ll face.

There’s a way to use different motivating factors to help you reach a goal – and others that work when it comes to maintaining the results.

Balance, self-awareness, and a calm/ rational mind are the necessary components if you want to lose weight the right way.

Some of the ways to use this to your advantage are:

  1. Feel (and OBSERVE) your emotions about your current weight
  2. Practice self-awareness
  3. Make well-being your ultimate goal
  4. Ignore what society says about beauty and self-worth

1 – Feel (and OBSERVE) your emotions about your current weight

We cannot change what we don’t acknowledge.

But we also won’t take deliberate and conscious action toward wellness from a place of emotional turmoil.

It’s clear you’re unhappy (flat out miserable) about your weight. That’s understandable.

But while you’re in the midst of feeling your emotions over this, step back and witness yourself.

Observe the thoughts running through your mind.

Look at the intensity of the how frustrated you are.

Does this make you want to solve the problem as quickly as possible to experience a sense of relief?

Chances are, it does. This is why people choose fad diets and unsafe exercise programs to give them what they want as soon as possible.

This isn’t the way you want to go about this.

You want to do this from an emotionally sound place. This is why observing your feelings is a wise thing to do.

~ Jot down your thoughts and emotions. All of them.

~ Just get them out.

~ Then look at them objectively.

ALWAYS view yourself from the standpoint of an observer. There’s the “you” that interacts with reality – and the you that watches.

Know the difference. It counts. It matters – and it changes things.

For more on what that means, learn more about your ego.

2 – Practice self-awareness

To piggyback on what I’ve just said, self-awareness plays a bigger role in your habits than your behavior does.

This is because everything you DO is a result of who you ARE.

When you take action, you’re doing so from a combination of external stimuli (information and circumstances) and your inner world (your thoughts and beliefs).

When you become self-aware, you know what pulls your strings.

You’re in touch with the recordings that play out in your mind. These messages are responsible for how you react to your world – and THE world.

If you want to do this the right way, you’ll need to make “knowing thyself” a priority.

~ What pushes your buttons?

~ What makes you act?

~ Who/ what influences you?

~ What are you saying to yourself (that you aren’t even aware of)?

Have you ever thought how abusive you’d sound if you said to others what you say to yourself?

Imagine what your self-criticism would sound like if you said these things to someone else.

“Gosh, your thighs are jiggly.”

“Your ass is so flat. No man would ever want to be seen with you.”

“OMG – when you waved at me, all I could see were your arms flapping in the wind. Too bad you can’t fly.”

“You’ve always been fat and you never succeed. Why try again? You’ll fail.”

“You’re just ugly. Seriously, no one could love you.”

“Damn, your breasts are really sagging there. I thought you were about to trip over them.”

“What the fuck is going on with your face? It looks like a crumpled up paper bag.”

I personally heard someone say that last line about themselves.

These are just a few of the things we say to ourselves.

You’ve gotta stop that…but you won’t until you know you’re doing it.

It won’t end there either.

It’ll really stop once you no longer BELIEVE what you say to yourself.

You ARE your imagination.

So again practice self-awareness. Then sit back and observe what’s inside of you.

3 – Make well-being your ultimate goal

Once you’ve accomplished the first two steps, you’ll probably be amazed to discover that your inner world is sick.

I’m not trying to be rude or insensitive. I’m just calling it as I see it.

I’ve been there. I’ve done what I’m suggesting, so I’m in no position to put your down (nor would I want to).

But because I’ve done the work, I get it. This is what I’m teaching you.

When you’ve realized you’re sick, you have to decide to get well.

What does well-being look like?

Is it about looking like a fitness model?

Does it involve simply being healthy?

Is it geared toward being attractive/ well-liked/ accepted/ dateable?

What does it mean to you to be a healthy individual?

I’ll tell you this:

You can’t be well with a sick mind.

Clarify what true wellness means to you (hint: it isn’t about what society says).

4 – Ignore what society says about beauty and self-worth

Society is filled with information.

You see the magazines and billboards telling you what it means to be beautiful.

You watch the tell-a-vision programs suggesting that the love of your life will fall at your feet if they think you’re gorgeous and you’ll live happily ever after.

What will your fabulous partner do if you get sick, lose your hair, let your six pack abs soften and suddenly become normal looking?

How many times have you heard about spouses or partners suddenly wanting to break up because their significant other isn’t as attractive to them any longer?

And how often has someone who was considered beautiful lost their partner to someone else who was just as good looking?

Let me tell you something folks –

Your well-being has nothing to do with your looks.

But true wellness (the real kind) is what makes your eyes shine, your heart swell and it oozes out of you.

It’s what makes you light up the room.

It’s why you’re a good person. One the world needs.

I’m gonna say this and I hope you’ll let it sink in…

The world has no shortages of tight asses, big tits and washboard abs. What it IS lacking is heart, true consciousness and people who treat themselves with CARE.

Well-being is about care.

When ALL four of the ingredients come together:

~ Self-observation

~ Self-awareness

~ A genuine desire for well-being

~ A healthy distance from the group thinking process of society

You’ll have the perfect formula for losing your weight (along with a hunk of other emotional baggage) the right way.

But Doesn’t Eating Right and Exercising Count?

Yes, it does.

But more than that, your ideas about well-being and a good understanding of your self-imposed limitations will be what decides how you handle a “diet and exercise” program.

When healthy living is your ultimate goal, you become someone who lives that way.

It isn’t about what you do, it’s about who you are.

You don’t want to practice some new behaviors with an end date in mind if longevity is what you’re after. Short terms goals are helpful and can provide temporary motivation – but you want to go beyond that.

You want to kick this nasty annoyance in your life good-bye once and for all. You’ll do that when you’ve changed your inner world.

I want to leave you with a short video. This is a recent interview I did with Carl over at goodbooks.online (whom I’ll be introducing you to in a week or two).

The topic is exercise safety and how to go about your healthy living program in a safe and structured manner.

Believe it or not, getting in shape could be hazardous to your health if you aren’t aware of some of the hidden dangers that lurk beneath the surface.

These are things you need to know about.

So watch the video, check out the post and grab a copy of my exercise safety book. The information could literally save your life.

Over to you.

Does this make sense to you? Do you see why you don’t want to rush the process?

Want more bullshit-free wisdom? Check out my latest book “Streetwise Philosophy (A Bullshit-Free Approach to Spiritual Maturity).”

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Dana Gore

Author of the books "A Simple Guide to Exercise Safety (What You Don't Know CAN Hurt You)" and "Streetwise Philosophy (A Bullshit-Free Approach to Spiritual Maturity)", Dana Gore is a health and fitness professional, wellness coach, and freelance writer. Dana brings guidance to the public about how to achieve optimal health in a safe and structured manner while inspiring her readers to seek self-awareness and inner peace as a means to well-being in all areas of life.

14 thoughts on “Lose Weight Quickly (or do it the right way)

  • at 11:25 am
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    Hi Dana,

    You story in itself is inspiring and a true testament to if we eat right and exercise we will lose weight and keep it off long term.

    These quick diets – as I have come to realize – doesn’t do any good. Yes, we get quick results but as soon as we stop, we gain the weight back and sometimes double.

    I used to be all about diets but not anymore. I’m learning how to cut out certain food and replace them with healthier options. My only vice is my Dr. Pepper – but I’m proud to say I’ve limited my soda intake to one 8 oz. can a day – down from two 20 oz. bottles. I can’t believe I said that out loud, hehe. 🙂

    As always, this is a great post D! Happy Friday. Enjoy your day.

    Cori

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    • at 10:56 am
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      Hey Cori,

      I’m so glad you got something valuable out of this. It’s also great to hear you’ve cut your soda consumption down. It’s a good start.

      It occurred to me at some point that when it comes to healthy living, we tend to go into “all or nothing” mode. It works for certain purposes, but for overall longevity, I’ve found that balance is the key.

      I went to see family this week and my Mom had mentioned how I’d kept my weight off (8 years now). I mentioned that the reason is because I’ve kept things simple. Most of it had to do with nutrition. Just changing my perspective about the role of food in my life.

      It’s just about thinking differently. It takes some time and a LOT of self-awareness, but the truth is, when WE change, things change.

      I appreciate your visit Cori. Have a fantastic rest of the week gf 🙂

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  • at 5:33 am
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    Hey Dana,

    First visit with you and although I’m not seeking weight loss advice, your post title grabbed my attention.

    However, I soon realized just how powerful and meaningful this post was when you said “When healthly living is your ultimate goal, you become someone who lives that way.”

    This statement hit me right between the eyes as it’s not just about the weight loss aspects of our lives but any behaviours we would like to improve, remove or whatever.

    Many, many thanks for sharing your experise and experience Dana and for giving me a real lesson in behavour management.

    Thanks also for your visit to my blog recently – amd the awseome comment you left me.

    Best wishes from the remote Thai village marketer

    Peter

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    • at 1:21 pm
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      Hi Peter,

      Welcome to my blog 🙂

      I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. It’s especially meaningful that even though the subject itself wasn’t something you wouldn’t look for personally, you still found value.

      As far as I’m concerned, it’s all related. The statement you mentioned pretty much sums it all up.

      It’s always great to meet new people, so I was happy to visit your blog and read your awesome post.
      Glad to know you Peter. Thanks so much for stopping by.

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  • at 7:03 pm
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    Hi Dana,

    It’s crazy that losing weight the right way wouldn’t have cut it as a title. It just goes to show how impactient people can be, even at the cost of themselves.

    I really like your quotes about changing your habits and the impact it can or not have on your true self. It’s true people typically only change the surface, and not really who they are so relapsing is always possible.

    When I think about my ideal health and weight it is all about me. I don’t consider the opinions of others or the latest fad. To me all that stuff is short term and my health is about the long run.

    ~Lea

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    • at 8:24 pm
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      Hi Lea,

      As much as it sucks to admit this, “quick weight loss” is a popular searched term.
      I had answered questions on Quora for a while and believe it or not, the majority of the ones I was asked to respond to had to do with quick weight loss or other unsafe and unrealistic ways to go about it.

      I’m glad you liked my tweets/ quotes. It’s true, though – when we change a behavior, who we really are comes right back to the surface as soon as life squeezes us. That’s why the change has to come from within.

      Your best bet is to do what feels right for YOU and not society, so I agree with you on that one.

      Good to see you here Lea. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

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  • at 12:21 pm
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    Hi Dana,

    There is no way anyone can lose weight on a “lose weight fast” kind of gimmick. It is just the same as “get rich quick” Nothing but schemes! Plus when it comes to weight, it can be unhealthy. One of my internet peeps did a loose weight thing and ended up in the hospital because she has high blood pressure and whatever the drink was promising miracles didn’t have a warning label on it. Hmmmm….

    Society can play havoc on us from our first long legged big boob Barbie doll to those magazines you stare at in the grocery store when you are on line. It’s awful if you believe that stuff. It is everywhere!!!

    Everything you mention in this article is the “right way” because it is for our own wellness and well being. That is the most important thing when it comes to feeling great.

    -Donna

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    • at 6:00 pm
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      Hi Donna,

      Yep, I don’t doubt what you’ve mentioned about one of your friends. I’ve BEEN that person too, so I get it.
      I went on a (very popular) diet many years ago and lost 14 pounds in 3 weeks. It was one of those “cut out this food group and gorge on that food group” kind of thing. I was miserable, tired, seriously craving fruit and I put the weight back on (with a few extra pounds) once I went off of it.

      I’ve also known people who went through similar experiences.

      Don’t even get me started on the barbies and magazines. I’ve written about that. We are constantly being fed ideas of what it means to be beautiful. We take all of it literally -even though society’s concept of beauty has changed over time.

      The only way to do this is the right way. Everything I’ve said here is about putting an end to the cycle – but it starts from within.

      I hate to say it, but I had to shift my perspective to change my behaviors. It’s easy to chase ideals and results, but when you just ARE those things, everything you do comes out naturally. That’s when the yo-yoing finally ceases.

      Enjoy your week my friend 🙂

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  • at 10:33 am
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    Hi Dana,

    Thought I’d drop by your blog this morning and see what’s shaking.

    I love the catchy title on this post. I had to read the whole thing!

    I’ve never understood people who seek the “quick fix” solution… let’s suppose there were some kind of magic bean or pill that would instantly melt away all that fat you hope to lose.

    Well, what then?

    You take the pill, and you don’t appreciate the results — because you didn’t work for them! We tend only to appreciate the things that took sacrifice to achieve.

    It’s like people who win the lottery. The stat is something like 90 percent of them are broke within five years because they didn’t appreciate all the money they won… they squandered it. They didn’t respect the gift they were given.

    And as you pointed out in your post, our true selves always return to the surface.

    The thing is, time is going to pass anyway. People don’t work on living a healthy and active lifestyle often for the same reasons they don’t start saving their money… because it seems like too little too late to start today. But, fuck… c’mon, then. When are you going to start? 10 years from now?

    Time is going to pass anyway, so you might as well spend it making healthy choices for yourself.

    Right?

    Anyway, I’ll end my rant here. Great post!

    Brent

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    • at 6:06 pm
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      Hey Brent,

      Well I’m glad you decided to stop by 🙂

      I’m also glad you liked the title. I kind of struggle with those (I mentioned it to David from Byte of Data), so it’s cool this one came out ok…lol

      I agree that when things come too easy we don’t appreciate them. When I talk about my own weight loss, the gifts were in the process. I learned a lot about myself, how I viewed things, my self-imposed limitations and what it meant to do away with the all or nothing extremes. If I hadn’t gone through the work, I wouldn’t have attained the knowledge I have now.
      So yeah, I’m glad I’ve kept the weight off, but what I’m really happy about was freeing my mind.

      Yep, time will pass anyway, so why not use it constructively?
      I think you may be the first one to use the f-word in a comment here. Bravo my friend. It’s about fucking time someone did 🙂

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      • at 8:25 am
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        Haha… I watched the Tony Robbins special on Netflix on the weekend. Now there’s a guy who says “fuck” a whole lot!

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        • at 8:27 pm
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          Ahhh, ok. I haven’t followed a lot of his work. I may be tempted to check that out now though 🙂

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  • at 4:47 pm
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    Hi Dana,

    Once again, another inspiring post! You really know how to reach inside someone and shake them so they’ll understand what you’re talking is truths.

    I was on a roller coaster with weight loss. It took me into my 30’s before I wouldn’t even gain. When I got married, the pounds seemed to pack on. Then, later on, meds and depression added more. During the past 12 years, I’ve been up and down. It is really hard for some to stay consistent especially if food is your vice when stressed. I understand you can change the way your mind thinks but sometimes I don’t always think that’s feasible at that very moment.

    Now I practice portion control and have been able to lose almost 10 lbs of the 25 that my antidepressants put on me. It’s a work in progress but I’m getting there.

    Passing this along as I know many are struggling and can use your advice.

    Thanks gf!

    B

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    • at 6:14 pm
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      Hey B,

      Awww, I appreciate that 🙂

      I know how tough it is to keep your weight consistent when you’re dealing with stress, anxiety and the meds that go along with them.
      I also know what comfort food does. It comforts. I’ve comforted my way through an entire pint of ice cream in one sitting (following some fast food and washing it down with soda) many times. It had to stop though because it led to a ton of discomfort.

      These days, I’ve learned to appreciate healthy stuff as the comfort food because it’s my way of declaring I have some iota of strength when life gets me down.

      I think it’s great that you’ve been able to implement portion control and get positive results out of that. It really helps. It’s so easy to overstuff ourselves (did that a lot too) and it just takes a shift in perspective and practice to make it easier.

      One of the methods I used was to immediate designate a portion of my meal for another meal. It wasn’t restricting, it was repurposing. It made a world of difference.

      I appreciate the shares and of course, your visit. Thanks so much B <3

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