7 Ways to Cope When You’re Feeling Depressed

I’ve been there…

Many times.

I know exactly what it’s like when things seem hopeless.

While I won’t get into the details – I will say that the feelings of sadness I’ve experienced throughout my life have been pretty intense.

And even though I view such situations as an opportunity to revisit some of the inner conflicts that take up residence in my mind, I will say that regardless of how ‘aware’ I can be of my negative feelings, actually being in them… totally sucks.

So what do you do when you feel terrible – EVEN with an understanding of what your pain is telling you?

Well, I have several different methods that I’ve worked with when I’ve been down and out.

Perhaps they’ll offer you some hope the next time you feel as though your life is against you.

7 Ways to Cope When You’re Feeling Depressed

  1. Accept it. I don’t mean to lay down and die in your depressed state – but I do mean to recognize where you’re at, and understand that there is something for you to learn – even if it’s about you (it always is).
  2. Treat yourself with love and respect. This includes filling your body with nutrient dense foods and exercising in any way that brings you joy.
  3. Try to identify the underlying thought/belief that may be the cause of the pain and see if somehow, this is telling you something valuable about yourself (Ex – I hate the way I’m treated at work. It makes me feel like a worthless loser who doesn’t deserve respect).
  4. Find things to enjoy – even in small increments as often as you can in an effort to experience seeing the ‘bright spot’ in a dark situation.
  5. Allow yourself a treat. Don’t deprive – but it isn’t necessary to go all out and overindulge either. This is a time where self-respect is important – so go ahead and allow yourself something fabulous…just do so from a place of self-love instead of escapism.
  6. Bathe in humor as often as possible. Laughter really is a gift from God.
  7. Make a list of aspects that you like and admire about yourself. Accomplishments work too.

So because I’ve listed these suggestions, I’m going to take the liberty to use my own example of how I’ve put them into play during my dark periods.

When I’m feeling depressed:

  1. I accept where I am, and I don’t attempt to fix it immediately. I understand that my level of consciousness isn’t in a ‘solution’ mode, but it is telling me how my thoughts and beliefs have run certain aspects of my life (and how they still do). So I listen and get busy doing some shadow/core work. I wrote a post on Sylviane Nuccio’s blog about how to allow our emotions to communicate with us. I practice this often.
  2. I drink a LOT of fluoride-free, purified water. I add different healthy elements to it such as lemon (or organic lemon juice), greens and aloe vera juice. I also do strength training workouts – which helps me to alleviate negativity and keeps me strong and agile.
  3. I recognize the thoughts and beliefs that cause me to feel the way I do. I know my life is a reflection of my thoughts and beliefs, so anything that shows up is informing me of the programming that has run my life. I view each bout of depression as a way to tackle these issues from an expanded perspective and to grow from them.
  4. I love the beach, so I take the time to walk along the shore, sit on the sand and stare at the ocean. As I do this, I remind myself that even though life feels like it sucks, I still have things to be grateful for.
  5. I’ll allow myself a treat if I want one. They no longer own me, so if I want a cupcake, I’ll have one.
  6. I watch George Carlin videos.
  7. I take a look at my accomplishments. I’ll sometimes reread my own work, along with the comments to see how I’ve managed to positively impact others with my story. I’m hoping to do more of the same with this post. I’ve also made a list of what I’m proud of. This is what reminds me that all hope isn’t lost.

Dana’s List...

  • I lost the 70-75 (I fluctuate a bit) pounds that I carried on my body for a few years, and have kept it off. While I am not always ‘perfect’, I have followed my own inner-guidance and I remain someone who enjoys well-being – even if I do indulge from time to time.
  • I have completely healed from ALL of my eating disorders. They no longer rule my life. At all.
  • I (with the help of my husband doing this with me) completed the course requirements and graduated from a VERY challenging and demanding school for fitness. Now I’m no scholar, and I didn’t think I would ever have it in me to do what this curriculum required me to do, but dammit, I did it. And then I wrote a book about it.
  • I wrote and published “A Simple Guide to Exercise Safety: What You Don’t Know CAN Hurt You”. This is a book in which there is no other like it. Anywhere. It was a ‘bucket list’ sort of thing. While I’m thrilled that I actually created it…I tackled a market that doesn’t know it needs to be a market – yet. I knew the challenge going in and wrote the book anyway because it needed to be written. I know it acts as an asset to anyone who reads it – especially if they exercise. And I am proud that I am the one who made it a reality. And to top it off – I received an award (my first one ever) for writing it.

 

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This is The Time to Explore Your Creative Nature

If you’re feeling depressed, creativity can be your friend.

I can think of several artists who have come up with some of their best work when they were stuck in a low point in their lives.

Sometimes the inspiration may not show up immediately, but if you can tell yourself that…

This too shall pass.

…and just keep on keepin’ on – you may have something to work with once the darkness has (finally) faded away.

Some things you can do to alleviate the acute pain are:

  • Scribble in your notebook about how much you hate your job (but then make another list about what you like about it – even if you have to really think about it. Find something. Anything.)
  • Experiment with some form of art. You don’t have to be a pro. Watch design shows and see what inspires you.
  • Cook something yummy. Getting in the kitchen is like therapy for me. Making something healthy is a double whammy dose of comfort.
  • Watch someone else cook something yummy. This is a lighthearted activity that can serve to inspire you.
  • Find healthy additives to put in water for healthy nutrition benefits. There are fruit infused water bottles out there that make this easy. This type of behavior makes you feel like you love yourself.
  • Immerse yourself in well-being. Self-care is one of the most effective ways to combat feelings of depression. It’s an intentional act in the form of care toward yourself, and others. When we are good to ourselves, we are good to those who surround us. Just knowing this is a way to feel empowered.
  • Go for a walk or work out. 10-20 minutes of intense physical activity is often enough to shake off the intensity of the pain. I’ve done this many times and it works beautifully.

These are all forms of creativity, and they can do wonders for sadness. Again it isn’t about escaping it – it’s about being in the moment, in the feelings – even when they are dark. Fully embrace them and be self-loving anyway.

I don’t make these suggestions lightly either.

I have been in the midst of the darkness – fully surrendering to it. But in doing so, I can be IN the water without being UNDER the water.

A LOT of Us Get Into a Funk Every Now and Then…

I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who didn’t… at least at some point in their lives. It happens to the best of us – for many reasons.

The persistent ones are usually there to tell you there is still something that hasn’t been dealt with yet, and it isn’t going anywhere until it is. This is why escaping doesn’t work.

All of our issues stem from thought. Mine included. And although we can change jobs, relationship partners or even ‘fix’ a family member, the truth is –

As within, so without.

There may even be some issues that never get truly healed, and in this – acceptance is a friend.

So if you’re feeling depressed, try these suggestions out.

You aren’t alone – you just think you are.

If you haven’t yet watched the film “Conversations with God”, I encourage you to do so. It’s very inspiring.

Over to you…

How do you deal with feelings of depression?

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Dana Gore

Author of the books "A Simple Guide to Exercise Safety (What You Don't Know CAN Hurt You)" and "Streetwise Philosophy (A Bullshit-Free Approach to Spiritual Maturity)", Dana Gore is a health and fitness professional, wellness coach, and freelance writer. Dana brings guidance to the public about how to achieve optimal health in a safe and structured manner while inspiring her readers to seek self-awareness and inner peace as a means to well-being in all areas of life.

37 thoughts on “7 Ways to Cope When You’re Feeling Depressed

  • at 4:44 am
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    Hi Dana
    The new theme for your blog is looking really cool.

    A great inspirational post. We all feel low and depressed at one point or the other in our lives. Whenever I feel low, I just try to distract my mind from the thing that is depressing me and involve myself in something I love to do. Also I try to talk less so that I don’t blast out and release my frustration on someone else.

    Thanks for sharing these coping strategies!

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    • at 6:57 pm
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      Hi Sonal,

      I hear you about being mindful about blasting out negativity. I think we’re able to share our issues with others as a means to either connect or just lean on someone if we know how to manage our responses (and this comes from following the steps I’ve listed here).

      When I was a walking emotional reaction to my pain (a longgg time ago), I spread it around because I wasn;t self-aware. Now that I use the tools to get to “know thyself”, I can communicate in a solution oriented mode – which enables me to seek comfort, but in a way that doesn’t negatively impact others.

      I also like to find healthy distractions to get a break from my pain. Writing or getting in the kitchen helps me with that.

      Glad you like the new theme.
      Thanks for stopping by Sonal 🙂

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  • at 8:41 pm
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    Hi Dana,

    One thing I’m realizing as I read more and more is that depression is prevalent. I never realized the extent but as I read your story, listen to others I see a lot of people have experienced it. I know in my early 40’s I suffered from it and went on meds for a short period of time. About 2 years. Without going into detail on why it seems I think it had to do with hitting 40 and where I was in my life.

    In some ways I guess it’s good to know that others suffer from depression only in that others know that they are not alone.

    Great tips to help us with the realization and in directions and solutions we can take.

    Thanks for a great article.

    Barbara

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    • at 6:52 pm
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      Hi Barbara,

      welcome!

      I think a good number of us go through feelings of being depressed – whether it’s a chronic situation or an acute, but temporary one.

      Following the tips I’ve discussed here may help to determine the difference between the two – as one is the result of specific circumstances while the other one is a condition in and of itself.

      I’m glad to know that yours went away and was directly related to a specific stage in your life. I’m sure it wasn’t pleasant, but I’d bet it had a lot of valuable things to teach you. These sorts of things usually do in hindsight.

      I appreciate your comment Barbara. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

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  • at 6:11 pm
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    Hi

    I’m all about accepting it. I know to a lot of people it seems like a tough pill to swallow at first, but the only way you can do something about it is accepting and knowing where you are.

    I can’t say that I’ve been depressed but I’ve surely been down and out a number of times in life. I allows myself to be consumed in my feelings for a bit (I guess just to release it) and then I move towards turning things around.

    Also, off topic, but I love the new look of your site. Very Nice

    ~Lea

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    • at 6:45 pm
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      Hi Lea,

      Yep, acceptance is a powerful thing.

      The struggle comes from a “this shouldn’t be happening” mindset.

      Things happen, and when they do, it’s up to us to respond deliberately – and preferably with a clear sense of direction.

      Like you, I allow my feelings to communicate freely. It’s about knowing the difference between feeling and ruminating that can render the circumstances beneficial or detrimental.

      The tips I’ve shared here are for people who are “down and out”. Chronic and severe depression is something entirely different than depressed feelings. The former may require some additional help – the latter can be a temporary situation that remains that way if we know how to navigate through it.

      Hey, thanks for the compliment on the new theme. I’m happy with it 🙂

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  • at 5:59 am
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    Hello Dana.

    How are you?

    My wife and I just started this blog, a couple of weeks ago. So, reading your post on – 7 Ways to Cope When You’re Feeling Depressed, was just great, as have no idea how to make our blog a success – and it is very depressing for the both of us.

    We are a married couple from Mumbai, India and we are very keen on growing a successful blog and one day – hopefully, get to the stage where we can make some money from it, to keep the fires at home burning.

    Though our blog is new, we seem to feel that it is very hard to build a successful blog and we have no idea how to get people to look at our blog and come visit us – again and again – and this – is really very depressing for us. More so when we look around and see that there are so any highly successful bloggers – who are making a nice pile of cash – just by blogging.

    So yes, we are going through FEELINGS OF SADNESS as you put it, in fact, immense sadness, as we know not how to make a successful blog.

    Albeit, hopefully, by looking at your blog and some blogs of other successful bloggers, we might be able to learn a few tips, that will help us succeed in our blogging adventure.

    Thanks for this post.

    SIMPLY KOOL.

    Regards.
    Vee N Ric

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    • at 6:10 pm
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      Hi Vee N Ric,

      Welcome to my blog.

      I know what it’s like to first start out in the blogosphere. The fact that you stopped by and introduced yourself by commenting is a good start.

      I’m going to be honest with you, though…

      If you are doing this and expecting immediate results, you’re in for some disappointments. The types of relationships that develop through blogging take time – and a LOT of sincerity. Considering how many people out there start blogs – hoping to earn a living out of it, especially right away become obvious to the rest of us – and given that I’ve just visited your blog and can see you clearly have a love for India (the theme of your blog), I would lovingly recommend that you just stick with what you’re doing, continue to create content you are passionate about and most importantly…
      …be authentic.

      Keep visiting blogs, leave genuine comments, don’t have a ‘what’s in it for me” factor and love what you’re doing.

      Good luck and thanks for stopping by 🙂

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      • at 12:24 pm
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        Hallo Dana
        WOW
        What awesome advice you have given.
        Thanks a lot.
        We are now fans of yours.
        Anyway to share your posts on FB?
        Regards.

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  • at 5:58 am
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    I love your list of things you do when you’re feeling down, especially taking a walk and watching George Carlin movies! My entire youth was spent in depression thanks to a highly dysfunctional family and several years of bullying. In fact my last couple of years of high school suicide was on my mind – a lot. Fortunately once I was able to change my environment my attitude, spirit and entire outlook on life also changed and I was able to put the depression behind me. I think for all of the ways in which we can improve our mental state and quality of life too often we fail to recognize the impact our environment has on us. Hum … I may have to write about that. 🙂 Thanks so much for your inspiration and strength!

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    • at 5:56 pm
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      Hi Marquita,

      I’m sorry to hear about your childhood. The years you spent being bullied couldn’t have been any fun either.

      I went through a stage where I was bullied too. It was a scary time in my life, even though it didn’t last for very long.

      I can only imagine what years of it would do to a person.

      I’m thankful you were able to find a better environment for yourself. Even though those early years were rough, it seems they taught you a lot – and because of that, you’ve gone on to help others with the work you do now. That’s a blessing – and in response to your own adversity, You’ve chosen to be of service.

      That’s awesome.

      If what I’ve written has offered inspiration and strength, then I’ve done my job.

      Thanks for stopping by and have a great week 🙂

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  • at 9:44 pm
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    Hi Dana, Thanks for sharing these positive approaches. It is very helpful and I’m definite that people who are in this situation at this very moment can resonate with it. Great encouragement indeed!

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    • at 5:48 pm
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      Hi Sherill,

      Welcome!

      It was my pleasure to share my tips. I only hope they come in handy for those going through a rough time.

      We all go through these things, and I’m confident we can all learn something from one another.

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

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  • at 3:41 pm
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    Hey Dana,

    I could have used your advice during the times I was deeply depressed. Yep, I’ve been there before myself.

    The first time was when the love of my life told me he didn’t want to marry me 5 weeks and 2 days before we were to walk down the isle. Can you say devastated? The second time was when I was 35 years old and I knew that I would never be a mother. I gained 30 pounds and went into a hole for 3 months. The last time was when I lost my Dad and I had to go to counseling and take anti depressants for that one. It hit me super hard and took me 2 years to get through.

    I always turned to food because it got my mind off of things but the last time I ended up really sick and lost almost 40 pounds due to that issue which of course you know how horrible that was for my body. Talk about unhealthy but I just couldn’t eat without getting sick. It took 5 months to get me cured, it took them 1 month to find out what the problem was.

    I do know that for me personally, knowing that I’m a good person and that I have a lot to offer, that my Dad wouldn’t want me feeling that way, all the things we think of and know. Knowing is one thing but breaking through all of that is another. We all have to cope in different ways and I do think that today I would do better if I’m hit with something major again.

    The only times I really get down these days is when I lose a loved one. That’s a loss that’s super hard and we need to have a darn good cry. We just don’t need to wallow in self pity and know that we have to move on.

    Thanks for sharing your own things with us Dana and how we can start to cope better.

    ~Adrienne

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    • at 9:28 pm
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      Hi Adrienne,

      Yep, I know about the situations that have had a strong impact on you.
      While my tips may have helped you at the times you needed them, I have a feeling that going through those things – and even dealing with them the way you did is what caused tremendous growth and wisdom for you.

      As funny as this may sound, I had to learn to cope with things the wrong way first until I developed a strong enough desire to transcend that behavior. It’s like – the pain of the situation itself wasn’t enough to get me to be conscious or choose awareness. I had to muck up my response to things as well because it was in taking responsibility for my own ability to react or respond that provided much-needed insight.

      In your case, your response to your pain through your eating habits caused you to become a lot more conscious about how you take care of yourself. I know it sucks to become overweight and to go through the pain of that whole thing…but you became someone who takes her health habits seriously, and that’s a good thing.

      I know the loss of your loved ones hit you hard. You mentioned you knew they wouldn’t want you to suffer, and I think you’re right. A good cry (maybe several) can be a release.

      I’m glad you appreciated the post, Adrienne and I appreciate you stopping by. Have a great rest of the week my Friend 🙂

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  • at 12:51 pm
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    Hi Dana,

    Thank you for sharing this with us. One I can definitely relate to…I suffer from depression to so I work daily in trying not to let the stuff going on here trigger it. I’ve been off meds for a long time now (Obamacare too expensive to get sick) so I do it naturally. It takes longer but it’s better than feeling like a zombie with the meds.

    I need to follow your steps for dealing with depression. I usually do deep breathing exercises, talk a walk on the treadmill and repetitive thinking. I wish I lived by the beach, that is my healing place too which is why we head to Galveston for our getaways. We’re close enough to get home in case of an emergency and I get to enjoy the beach for a couple days. 🙂

    It’s hard for me to be creative when I’m depressed…maybe I need to channel that energy in a different way and use the suggestions you shared here.

    I have never heard of the Conversations with God…I need to watch it, thanks for sharing the trailer.

    Great post lady! Happy hump day!

    Cori

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    • at 9:19 pm
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      Hey Cori,

      I’m laughing out loud at your comment about our current health care system.
      Oh, so true 😉

      I’ll never tell anyone what they should or shouldn’t do in regard to meds, but I will say – if there is a way to deal with things head on, then great.

      Of course, it certainly doesn’t feel so great – and these things can come and go in stages.
      I feel the work of self-awareness is a full-time job and things can get pretty dark. Our circumstances usually reveal ourselves – to ourselves. While it’s natural (and perfectly fine) to work toward improving a situation…it’s the inner-work that allows solutions to make their way into our lives because we experience the fullness of a situation. If we can do this without fear and choosing deliberately to allow our stuff to communicate with us freely, it doesn’t have to chase us down to get our attention.

      It’s like – when we need to learn something, God will whisper. If we don’t acknowledge this, the volume gets louder. If we continue to run, things get ugly.
      It’s all to get our undivided attention. It’s up to us to listen – willingly.

      The beach is so therapeutic and I’m glad you get to visit when you can. I also find that getting in the kitchen unleashes my creative nature – and that’s uplifting.

      If my tips do in fact help you in some way, then my own feelings of darkness has done something useful.

      I appreciate the contribution to the conversation Cori. Enjoy the rest of your week.

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  • at 5:55 am
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    Hi, Dana

    Excellence post for dealing depression!

    This topic is important because I believe nobody can escape the thought of “depressed”. Depression can hit us any time anywhere it wants. Your tips are useful for us. I will bookmark this for future reference.

    When the ‘depressed” feeling hits me, the first thing I do is to sing (praise) or speak anything aloud to myself because our sound can break our thoughts (it is supported by scientific data). Next thing I will go out of the house to get some fresh air to clear my mind. After that, I come home to take a long hot bath and go to meditation to find the out the real reason for the feeling.

    By my experience, my belief system (in God) helps me to reduce the frequency of the “depression” showing up in my life. The more I know my identity , purpose, and destination, the frequency reduced proportionally. I always praise Him for that. He also took my worrying and anxiety completely away (that was cited in the bio section of my blog). God is my long term solution for depression. Sometimes, human self-effort can only do so much.

    It will be shared.

    Thanks for sharing your experience!

    -Stella Chiu

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    • at 9:06 pm
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      Hi Stella,

      I think it’s great that you actually use the experience to gain insight into the root of the problem.
      So many of us try to run away from negative feelings when in fact, they have a lot to tell us. When we’re open to this, they can be quite insightful.

      Being open to Faith and God is helpful. There is so much more going on than our limited physical minds can pick up on – and it’s that trust in what we don’t see that offers some pretty enlightening information to come our way.

      Getting outside and appreciating the fresh air is a refreshing way to break the hypnotizing effect that feelings of depression can create. That is a wonderful tip.

      Thanks so much for stopping by Stella. Enjoy the rest of the week.

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  • at 10:21 pm
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    This is such a great post. I love the way you make your points, and then illustrate them with your own examples and experiences. When I’m feeling depressed or anxious, many of these things help me too. Exercise and writing are two of the top ones for sure. I also allow myself time to really feel the feelings I’m having about a certain situation. I give myself permission to wallow for a few hours…maybe a day, but then it’s time to work on moving on.

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    • at 8:58 pm
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      Hi Shann,

      Thanks for your kind words 🙂

      Yep – I made it a point to list exactly HOW I use these steps as a guide. This is how I’ve coped with my own lousy feelings – regardless of how long they’ve stuck around.

      Like you, I appreciate exercise and writing. I had realized a while ago that I can use my experiences to be of service – and writing is my primary way of doing this unless I’m speaking to someone specifically. Just knowing that transcending a situation can be used later on as a way to help others – in and of itself – is a coping mechanism.

      I allow my feelings to fully express themselves as well. Our emotions are messengers. Masking them is denying insight that can help us. The idea is to learn the difference between feeling – and dwelling. But that comes with time as well.

      I really appreciate your comment, Shann. Thanks for stopping by.

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  • at 1:59 pm
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    Hi Dana,

    Really enjoyed your post as I have had a few moments in my life where I was feeling so low, and so depressed that I actually felt sorry for myself. As I age and get older I have utilized my ” coping” strategies that always seem to help me get out of my “funk” One of those strategies is listening to music, as it always makes me feel better and helps me see things (after a breakdown of crying) clearer and I am able to get up, dust myself off and keep going cause I know that it is only temporary and I become much more stronger and am ready to face whatever comes my way!

    This is a great list of easy ways to cope, thank you for sharing 🙂

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    • at 8:53 pm
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      Hi Joan,

      Isn’t it easy to feel sorry for ourselves when we’re down? I know I’ve caught myself engaging in pity parties from time to time. The idea is to catch it though and see if this is in fact what we’re doing.

      You used the word “funk” – and that’s an accurate term. That’s exactly how I feel when I’m going through stuff. And like you, I remind myself that it’s temporary and I use the steps listed here. It takes practice to remove yourself long enough to witness your own stuff – but it’s incredibly helpful because it offers insight and perspective.

      I enjoy music too. Whether the lyrics resonate with what I’m going through or simply lift me up – music is a gift.

      I’m glad you got something useful out of this and I appreciate your visit 🙂

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  • at 1:22 pm
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    I really admire your willingness to share with others. That is very brave and you can help so many people that way. My mom is going through a tough patch now. Its a long story, but there are several ways on here that I know will help her. Thank you for the ideas.

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    • at 8:46 pm
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      Hi Cindy,

      Welcome!

      Thanks for the kind words 🙂
      I’m more than willing to be open and honest about how I’ve used certain tools to help me to transcend circumstances. We’re all here to learn from one another’s experiences. This is how we give our lives away to serve others.

      I hope your Mom finds some relief soon. If any of my tips help her, then I’ve done my job.

      Wishing her (and you) peace.

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  • at 12:23 pm
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    What a really great post. I think everyone has been in this situation at least once in their lifetime. As a mother of 2, I feel like stress/anxiety get the best of me at least once a week! However, I know that when my son was born 7 weeks early, I did set into a depression and felt like I just cried all day until he was able to come home from the NICU. I coped by being with my hubby. Normally I am not the cuddly kind of person, but I really needed held during that time. He knew that too. It was great to have his should to lean on.

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    • at 8:43 pm
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      Hi Christine,

      I’m glad you got something out of the post.

      I’ve read Shann’s blog, which has made me aware of at least some of what goes on with premature births. It sounds like a very stressful situation – filled with a LOT of emotion.

      Yes, most of us do go through this to some degree. Whether it’s chronic or acute, feelings of depression have affected a good number of us from time to time.

      In your case, I’m glad you had someone to lean on and that it helped you. Knowing you’re not alone is a comfort.

      I’m glad things picked up for you 🙂

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  • at 3:29 pm
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    Hi Dana,

    I so admire your openness and desire to help others. I think we all go through a bout of depression from time to time. I always know the underlying root so I have found a few ways to deal with it myself.

    One, I go and take a nap. I find that it helps me to clear my mind so that when I wake I can focus on the problem without the emotional entanglement that I was struggling with previously.

    Then, I get to work on whatever it is that needs to be addressed. I’m not one to feel sorry for myself for long because I know that isn’t going to solve the problem that leads to depression. I figure the fastest way out is to fix the problem.

    I do recognize thought that this is very much a male tendency. Not that all males are like this or all females are not. But as a norm…

    Great post Dana!

    I hope you’re enjoying the New Year and that you are more prosperous than ever before!

    ~ Don Purdum

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    • at 4:46 pm
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      Hi Don,

      Well, I appreciate you saying that 🙂
      I’m willing to be open and candid about my experiences. Going through them enables me to learn things and share them with others. I even keep that in mind WHILE I’m going through this stuff because I’d like for the experience to serve to be an asset in some way.

      That’s a coping technique for me.

      I’m sure naps do help, and nope, I don’t think it’s limited to being a male or female response. I know someone (a female) who also takes naps when things become too intense and it helps her too.

      It’s the act of taking a pause – and I feel that’s a responsible thing to do.

      Getting yourself out of the way for the time being can place you in a position to remember to be an observer once the dust settles. It’s a way to empower ourselves because we assume personal responsibility…and places us in a better frame of mind to allow a solution to show up.

      I genuinely appreciate your insight Don – and I wish you a fantastic week (and year) ahead 🙂

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    Hi Dana,
    I am another who is very well familiar with clinical depression and anxiety since my early 20s. For the most part it is controlled with medication but sometimes I have breakthrough panic attacks such as this past weekend. I am caregiver to an Alzheimer’s patient (my 2nd mother) and sometimes it gets to be too much.

    I cannot leave to go to a gym or anything but I am looking into getting some sort of stepper or treadmill for the house and I can start exercising inside.

    Thank you for sharing your experiences of what worked for you. Have a great New Year

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      Hi Monna,
      l can only imagine how challenging it must be to be the primary caretaker of someone in your second Mom’s condition.

      While I’m sure on some level it’s rewarding because you are caring for her – and that’s an act of love, the toll it takes on you must be taxing.

      I admire what you’re doing. I think some form of exercise would be a useful outlet/release for you. There are a number of ways to add fitness into your life, but what I would suggest is to find something you would enjoy.

      The stepper idea sounds cool. You can also do some walk at home programs.
      Whatever it is, just make sure it’s something that inspires you or brings some fun into your life.

      Thank-you so much for stopping by and commenting Monna. Have a great week ahead 🙂

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    Hi Dana,

    I know depression quite well. But when I got a bout of it that wouldn’t go away I did go for help. It is amazing the many things we can do to get out of a funk or depression that is on a higher end. Yes do something for yourself first! Sometimes when I get really down, I’ve learned to do a small task. One that has a beginning middle an end. It can be as simple as washing dishes or brushing the dog.

    Sometimes depression can get so bad that the energy in our bodies are so low we are physically tired. But whatever energy we can summon up…do something. When down or depressed, I always think of the people around me. I don’t want to hurt them in any way…or make them worried.

    Oh dear…I can go on and on with this topic, but sometimes it’s good to even write a list of what you have eaten because certain foods can bring you down too…like sugar or coffee. We get that high and it brings us down fast.

    I would say from all your suggestions, list writing I like the best. Keep on sharing because it is the best way for all of us to learn.

    -Donna

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      Hi Donna,

      I completely agree with what you said about how our bodies respond to the lowered energy of depression.
      That’s what makes it a double whammy.

      It’s one thing to feel terrible mentally, but when you’re tired, lethargic and feeling like crap in general – it only magnifies the problem.

      We do need to be mindful of what we’re consuming when this happens. As you’ve mentioned, sugar and caffeine aren’t the best substances to feed ourselves with. I prefer to use the dark moments to take even better care of myself by drinking the health infused-waters (like I mentioned) or making a green juice with my juicer.

      If nothing else, the ACT of self-care is a form of self-empowerment – and it does a LOT to ease some of the pain.

      Like you, I also don’t like to worry anyone else when I’m going through this sort of thing. I’m known to “suffer in silence” (probably to a fault) because unless I’m in solution mode, I don’t want to spread any negativity around or concern anyone.

      I like your idea of starting and finishing a small task. That can enable of feeling of accomplishment – which can also help.
      And lists do help as well. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that even though things aren’t feeling so great, we’re still capable of achieving cool things. It’s a necessary reminder.

      Thanks so much for contributing to the discussion Donna. Have a great week ahead 🙂

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    Hi Dana,

    Many congratulations on the new theme, new look for the New Year – it looks wonderful indeed 🙂

    Coming to the post, I loved all that you mentioned. Yes, I think many of us have had our share of ups and downs, and the down times can pull us right down at times, making us feel like it’s the end of the world! I’ve been through it too, especially the time when I lost my mom years back, and seeing her go through cancer wasn’t easy.

    However, as you mentioned, you need to make those efforts yourself to pull yourself out of the depressed phase, there is no other way. You need to accept the facts and learn how to cope with them, by giving yourself time and taking it slow. Time is a great healer as well, besides the other ways you mentioned. Yes, diverting yourself and trying various things always helps.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead 🙂

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    • at 4:22 pm
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      Hi Harleena,

      Awww, thanks so much! Yes, I love the new theme too. 🙂

      We sure do all have our ups and downs. It’s a part of life. Sometimes, though, those downs can be pretty intense. It can seem as though life is working against you and nothing you do helps. I’ve had plenty of those moments (years) and it took using the steps I’ve listed here, if nothing else, get through those times and still manage to remain conscious and deliberate of my response(s).

      I knew about your Mom. All I can say is that HAD to have been really tough – for all of you.
      The fact that you have a wonderful community and people around who love and care about you was probably part of the comfort you received during that time.

      But back to that community you’ve built up…
      That’s part of your creative nature. You’ve used this to help yourself and others in regard to personal growth and self-expression. I think that’s amazing.

      I appreciate you stopping by Harleena. Have a great week ahead 🙂

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  • at 2:41 pm
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    You are such an inspiration, Dana. You have come so far and by sharing your story with us, makes the rest of us hopeful. I’ve been depressed three times in my life. (1) When my mother passed suddenly when I was 11; (2) my father passed away in my 30’s; and (3) my hubs told me he wanted a divorce in my 40’s. Believe it or not, I handled the last one the worse. I ended up not being able to cope with his decision and went on antidepressants. Thankfully, I’m now off the antid’s. During this time, however, I did begin meditating. Once I got over the initial blow, I was able to channel my mind and meditate. It did help ground me and made me see a lot of what was going on was no fault of my own. Now at 47, there are times I look into the mirror and get a bit depressed, however, I don’t let it beat on me. As long as I am healthy, I feel I am alright. Sure, I could lose some pounds, and will, but I’m not going to kill myself over it.

    You’ve shared some really great tips in this article. I’m going to save this for future reference when I need it. Thank you so much for inspiring us!

    B

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      Hey Bren,

      I recently read another comment of yours about the loss of your folks, divorce, etc.
      While I know you went on meds for the last situation, I really admire you for using that time to go within and face your stuff.

      That’s not easy to do, but you are better, wiser and it seems, far more in control over your life for this.
      I know meditation can do wonders. Just the act of quieting the mind is helpful because more often than not, it’s our thoughts about our issues that make those issues better or worse. Being conscious and observing them is an act of assuming personal responsibility for ourselves.

      It’s so cool you’ve shared your experiences here. That’s what I love about the commenting. We all learn from one another – and from what I’ve learned about you, you are a strong woman (with a fabulous, sassy personality) 😉

      Thanks for stopping by Brenda. Have a great week!

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