I think most of us know that one of the ONLY things guaranteed in life is change.
Sometimes it’s a pleasant shift in direction, other times it feels like a curse.
We humans easily become creatures of habit. There are feelings of safety and security that go with routine and predictability. And if there’s a situation in our lives that changes abruptly, such as a loss of a job, relationship or anything else we weren’t prepared to give up, it can certainly make us feel deep sadness, fear, and defeat.
So how do you deal with change in a healthy and empowering way, even if the change isn’t what you wanted?
I have some tips.
The following are 3 ways to deal with change that will leave you feeling hopeful, inspired and quite possibly, excited.
3 Ways to Deal with Change
1 – Accept it.
This may (almost) sound condescending, and it’s easier said than done – but the truth is, peace comes from acceptance. That doesn’t mean to take on a victim-like mentality, but it DOES mean that to come up with an intelligent plan of action, it helps to clearly see exactly where you are in the grand scheme of things.
Many years ago, my family moved to another country. My “home base” and the people I loved (and needed) the most were gone from my day to day life. I felt depressed, alone and scared. I knew I couldn’t change the situation, so I had to accept it for what it was and get busy working on myself.
While I initially went through a very tough time and I missed them terribly, it forced me to grow up in ways that likely wouldn’t have transpired if my comfort and safety zones hadn’t been disrupted by their leaving.
The good news is they eventually moved back, but by then, I was able to be a better daughter, friend and overall asset to their lives because I used their absence to elevate myself.
They moved away from an irresponsible young adult who still acted like a child. They came back to a real adult who was capable of giving – and BEING a light in their lives. Sad as it was to lose them for a while, it was exactly what I needed to get my act together and I’m a better person in every way because of it.
2 – Stay open to new possibilities
When an unexpected change comes your way, it helps to keep an open mind and be curious about what’s possible.
For example, if you lost your job, this would be a good time to ask yourself some meaningful questions, such as:
- Was I happy?
- Is this what I truly want to do with my life?
- Am I capable of more?
- Is it possible there is something better out there I wouldn’t have seen if I stayed where I’ve been all this time?
If your relationship ended, this is the time to discover if you were truly happy or if there were things that weren’t in your best interests for the long haul. Maybe YOU needed to change and your relationship ending was the catalyst to encourage you to grow up and become a better partner.
And, sometimes, people just change in general, causing them to grow apart. Perhaps this person was perfect for you for a season, but with regard to a lifetime, you might be missing out on other relationships and experiences that would make you happier and more fulfilled in ways you wouldn’t have entertained had things stayed the same.Peace comes from allowing life to move. With this movement, there is growth, expansion, and opportunity. #selfawareness #growth #wisdomClick To Tweet
It’s fine and healthy to grieve, but while you’re doing that, keep an open mind and explore how this may benefit you in the long run. I’ve seen it work this way for others as well as myself. It’s the act of having faith that things have a way of working themselves out – even when there’s no physical evidence to support it.
3 – Seek wisdom, emotional intelligence, and spiritual maturity
There are books, blogs, videos, movies and all sorts of other means available to see how people have overcome adversity and unwanted change in their lives.
Many will tell you they found their soul mate after thinking they’d never get over their lost love. Others will relay the stories of how they became a successful entrepreneur sometime after losing their job, even though at first they freaked out and thought their lives were over.
Emotional intelligence is the act of using your emotions as an internal guidance system. You listen to them, but you don’t react FROM them.
Spiritual maturity is about asking life and yourself questions to help you expand your perspective and allow the higher self – the observer – to see your life and its possibilities from the mountain top instead of relying on your limited physical mind to guide you – which only sees things from the ground.
Deal with Change Intelligently
Try these techniques out the next time life throws a curveball your way.
Change is inevitable, but with wisdom, such changes can elevate and improve your life instead of leaving you feeling defeated, victimized and dejected.
Years ago, I read the book “Who Moved My Cheese?” It’s a book about how change is inevitable and why it’s actually a positive thing.
We’ll never stop life from moving – and to be honest, for the most part, we don’t want to.
For me, it’s a matter of allowing myself to evolve. Life has to change for that to happen, otherwise, I’d never learn, develop strength and grow.
I hope you got something out of this post. If you’ve had issues dealing with change – or if change has been a blessing in your life, I’d love to hear about it below.
Thanks for stopping by and until next time, take care.