I am beyond thrilled to share I AM My Imagination’s first guest post!
I met Sylviane Nuccio a few years ago when I had first visited her blog. She shares insights about travel, writing – and understanding the subconscious mind.
I have always been fascinated with the human condition, starting with my own. So when I discovered Sylviane’s work, I was impressed with the amount of knowledge she has about the role we play in our own lives.
I am privileged to know Sylviane, and I’ve gained some valuable insight from her book, “How to Transform your Life in 14 Days: A Step by Step Guide to Change your Mindset Forever”. In it, she offers us a hands-on manual to enable us to take better control of our lives and achieve success and self-empowerment.
Today’s post is going to be a treat because she’ll be discussing a topic I know we can all benefit from.
So without further ado, here’s Sylviane.
Why You Are the Creator of Your Own Experience
You feel that you have no control over your life.
You feel that what happens to you depends on circumstances or luck.
Worse even, at times you may even feel that you are the victim of some type of punishment and that you are paying the price for something you have done in the past.
Whatever the case, you believe that what happens to you comes from something outside of you. Outside of your control.
At least, that’s what you’ve been taught to believe, and for the most part, you have been willing to accept it as truth.
Most people never challenge what they’ve been taught from infancy because it could be very scary to dare thinking any different. This is the case even in societies where we like to call ourselves free thinkers.
But what else is there?
Aren’t we just victims of our own destiny?
Is there anything else out there?
And what about people who are suffering at the hands of others, aren’t they simply true victims?
Well, the way our world operates is not necessarily as you think it is. But if you are willing to have an opened mind, you can once and for all free yourself from being a victim, to becoming a total creator of your own life experience.
In this post I will do my best to explain to you how and why you are the creator of our own experience, and what you should start doing right now if you do not like what you see.
But first, let’s understand all the basics.
You Can Only Be Aware of What You Have Been Taught
I wasn’t any different from anyone else.
I grew up in a family where being the creator of your own life experience wasn’t something we even considered. On the contrary, in my family we believed in being victims all the way through, having bad stuff happening to us and having no control over it.
As a matter of fact, my mother was very anxious and superstitious too.
As a child, I caught a lot of that anxiety from my mother, and I had to fight not to fall in the trap of her superstitious circle, that had been transmitted from mother to daughter for as long as I can only imagine.
It was just part of life like it’s the case for millions of other families out there.
The problem when you grow up with such beliefs is that not only you are light years from even considering the concept of being the creator of your own experience, but you become very vulnerable to the things and people that are surrounding you. You are indeed like a boat without a rudder.
And where there is no control, there is vulnerability.
How I wish to have known that I was responsible for the negative things that were showing up in my life!
Because knowing it would have made me so much stronger, and it would have actually revealed to me the root of many of my problems.
But for that I would have needed to know what I know now.
Sadly, I didn’t.
That’s why I decided to write this blog post today, so you too can free yourself from encumbering beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
But before, let’s see why it might be comfortable to believe that you have nothing to do with what happens to you.
Why Believing that You Can’t Do Anything is Comfortable
Believe it or not, many people like to be victims.
Try to tell someone that they have created their own misery, and they might get very angry at you.
“What do you mean people create their own pain and suffering?”
It’s crazy, right?
Yes, we like to believe that we couldn’t help what happened to us.
Why is this the case?
Because it’s way easier to accept that we are victims of random events, than believing that we are remotely responsible for it.
After all, no one in their right mind would bring about violence, pain and sorrow upon them, now would they?
Of course not.
Neither you nor I would ever bring anything negative into our own experience. At least, not consciously.
But what you need to understand is that it’s not our conscious mind that’s running the show here.
It’s our subconscious mind that’s running the show.
And it’s very sneaky because the subconscious mind doesn’t rationalize, analyze or judge anything in any way.
Because that’s not the purpose of the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind can only play what it’s been programmed with. And that’s where the problem comes from.
Let me explain…
A computer programmer will program a computer so that the computer will perform properly and do the job that it’s supposed to do. However, if another computer programme infiltrates a virus in the system either purposely or by mistake, the computer is going to start acting in a way that’s interfering with the proper functionality of the computer.
The computer doesn’t think or analyze, it’s going to act according to its programming whether it’s a good programming or one infected with a virus. Once it’s got a virus, the computer will keep functioning according to the defective programming.
It’s the same thing with our subconscious mind.
If any type of “virus belief” (as in destructive) has been put into your subconscious programming, especially between the ages of 0 and 7 years old to a large extent, and until age 16 to a smaller extent, your subconscious mind is going to run the show, as it’s supposed to be doing, but some serious problems may show up as a result along the way.
Unfortunately, the majority of people walking the planet have had some type of negative subconscious programming from day one. Let’s be honest, most of us have grown up learning to expect pain, hurt and other bad things.
Indeed, most of us grew up learning that it’s normal to suffer, be poor, be sick, and so forth.
Your Subconscious Mind is Running the Show
There will always be a large part of our subconscious programming that we’ll never know about, but as you observe what’s happening to you, let’s say that it’s a tale-tell sign.
We are not attracting consciously, but we do attract circumstances, people and events around us according to our subconscious programming, which creates our experiences as per the law of attraction.
The reason why we can attract some less than desirable stuff to ourselves is that we have no clue about what’s going in on in there.
Now it doesn’t mean that you are guilty of anything. You can’t be guilty of something that you were never aware of in the first place. However, it doesn’t change the fact that whether you’re aware of it or not, you are the creator of your own experience from the inside out, so to speak.
Be very honest with yourself, and look at your life. Can you pinpoint at least some of the negative things that have happened to you? Can you see how you might have created them subconsciously?
I can promise you that the deeper you’ll go in getting to know yourself, the more answers you will be getting.
Here Are My Own Examples
As far as I’m concerned I wasn’t angry when I learned that I was the creator of my own experience, as some other people I’ve seen reacting to this.
On the contrary, I was relieved to know that I wasn’t just the unluckiest person I knew.
But most of all, that there was a reason to my miserable experiences. And if there was a reason, it also meant that there was a cure.
There was a reason and I found the cure.
Starting at age 4 until age 16 I was bullied in school every single day, and I lost my father at age 5.
Of course, all of that became part of my subconscious programming.
The 3 ways our subconscious is programmed as children is from what we hear, see and experience.
Abandonment and aggression became “normal” because they were part of my subconscious programming. And that’s why it was going to following me all throughout my life.
I was abandoned many times, and every single boyfriend I ever had, including my two ex-husbands, were bullies.
I got pushed, slapped, called names, and abandoned over and over again throughout my life.
I created this in my life.
Not consciously, of course, but I did created it subconsciously.
My subconscious mind always made sure to create that aggressive environment with a touch of abandonment for me.
No need to feel guilty or to get mad here. Just accepting the fact that due to a deficiency in the programming of that part of my mind that is subconscious, was the cause for the type of environment that I created for myself.
There isn’t any doubt that I did create those things. I know I did.
Of course, at the time I felt like the worst victim on earth, just like anyone else would have felt, but once I’ve discovered this revealing truth it was the beginning of a tremendous healing for me.
How Does it All Work?
Our universe is made out of laws.
Just like there is the law of gravity, there is a law that is called the law of attraction, which means that what we focus on expands.
However, what we focus on doesn’t depend only on our conscious mind, but to a greater extent on our subconscious mind. And because our subconscious mind is a hundred times more powerful than our conscious mind, it kind of cancels it out, so to speak.
So for example, you could say out loud many times over “I’m a millionaire” but if your subconscious programming is “I’m poor” that’s going to be your real point of attraction.
It’s not so much what you say that counts, but what you think and feel.
That’s why many people are saying that positive affirmations don’t work. Affirmations always work, but only if you truly believe what you’re affirming, and if they don’t contradict a subconscious belief of yours.
That’s how we become creator of our experience.
You are going to attract circumstances and people based on your deep subconscious beliefs, which will match such beliefs, according to one of the most powerful laws of the universe that we call the law of attraction.
Facing the Root of the Problem Will Set You Free
There is no need to get offended or defensive when learning that you are the creator of your own experience. Even when the experience kind of sucks.
Also, the fact that you now realize that bad things happen to other people as a result of their subconscious programming, doesn’t mean that you are not sensitive to what happens to them, it only means that you understand what is really going on behind the scene.
We are living with a subconscious programming that is affecting our lives in ways that we don’t always appreciate, and more times than not beyond our understanding. But the good news is that armed with such knowledge we can learn how to remove such bad programming and replace it with a brand new one more of our liking.
Once you do this, you will notice that your life will turn around for the best.
Yes, it’s possible to get to the root of the problem and change your subconscious programming, so you can stop being the victim of circumstances and events you thought you couldn’t control.
It might be impossible to truly know one hundred percent of what’s in your subconscious programming, but it is possible to get to know a whole lot about it still. Once you do, you can replace your negative programming by a positive one, just like you would tape a new song on top of an old one.
This is what I help people with.
I help people to become aware of their subconscious mind and help them heal that so important part of them, in order to be more successful in all areas of life. So they can become the true conscious creators of their own experience.
You too, can heal your life by becoming aware of what’s going on in your subconscious mind – your subconscious programming – reprogram it with the use of your conscious mind, and getting better results in all areas of life.
So you don’t have to be a victim anymore.
Over to you…
Do you try to gain insight into your own mind? Are you aware of how you create your life?
About Sylviane Nuccio
Sylviane Nuccio is a Certified Professional Life Coach living her dream life traveling Europe. As she does she’s helping people reaching out to their own dreams and financial freedom. Take advantage of her free 30-minute coaching session, and discover how you too can improve your lifestyle.
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