I’ve been in the health and fitness industry for several years.
But before that, I was a constant dieter. Exercising was something I did for weight loss – and I didn’t much care for it.
The reason I felt this way was because I didn’t know there was such a thing as “enthusiasm toward well-being.”
I either forced myself to engage in workouts because I had fat to lose – or went on restrictive diets to undo the damage I’d created for myself through overindulging.
There was no happy medium.
There was only “all or nothing” behavior (and thinking).
Eventually, after having experienced one extreme vs. another, I realized that even though I was a personal trainer and I had lost my weight the right way, I knew myself well.
I reflected back on relevant personal history and recognized a pattern I had no interest in repeating.
By taking a good, hard look at these patterns (and observing the thought processes that lead to the subsequent behaviors – creating unpleasant results), I realized that the key to a successful weight loss, but more importantly, weight management system had to do with balance.
So how does one find balance when it comes to making a significant life change?
For me, it took gaining an understanding of the steps I’m about to share with you now.
If you take the time to practice the tools I’m about to dispense; I have no doubt you’ll be successful in your quest for a healthy life.
And the good news?
This won’t be a drag. In fact, you’ll discover joy in the process of well-being.
3 Pleasurable Ways to Take Charge of Your Well-Being
The three necessary components when it comes to taking charge of your well-being are:
- Personal Development
- Discovering Your Joy
- Working with a Coach
In order to create long lasting change, one needs to be aware of the factors that have led to the current situation they’re facing.
In other words, know thyself.
Personal development is a key ingredient when it comes to healthy living.
The reason is because it helps to know why we’ve been unhealthy to begin with.
- What caused the weight gain?
- How do you feel about food (what role does it play in your life)?
- What are your habits (and what led to them)?
- How do you feel about yourself? Your Life? Your body?
- Do you think you’re a capable human being? Or do you suffer from self-doubt and limiting beliefs?
These are important questions to ask because in order to change something, it helps to know why the circumstances have been created to begin with.
Humans are walking emotional reactions to their thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. To make an effective life change, you have to acknowledge these aspects in yourself and challenge them.
Doing this may not be pleasant, but it will undoubtedly free your mind. Once the cobwebs of chaotic thinking are cleared out, you’ll have room to recreate the version of yourself that will reflect who you’d rather be.
Discover Your Joy
If you’re willing to be honest with yourself (and if you’ve read the previous step, you see the value in this), then you’ll admit that you, nor anyone else, likes to do things they detest.
When something appears negative, we avoid it.
There are no limits to the amount of excuses we can come up with to avoid doing what we feel we “should” do, so given how the mind works, we believe the limitations we set for ourselves because we simply don’t want to suffer.
Well, since well-being and suffering aren’t one in the same, it’ll help you to know that to experience the former, the latter has to go.
This doesn’t mean you won’t work, but it does mean you won’t hate it.
In fact, the idea is to love it (and you totally can!)
This is where the creative process comes in.
When it comes to dieting, the idea is to add healthy and nutritious foods into your life in a delicious way.
The other important concept to consider is that when we add the good stuff, it helps to crowd out the desire for the bad (useless) stuff.
Now when it comes to the foods you love, there are some imaginative ways to enjoy them, but to redirect how they’re used.
You can create healthier versions of your favorite dishes (which I often do), and you can “assign” some of your other treats for specific occasions.
This isn’t to restrict yourself, but to take charge of the role food plays in your life.
For instance, if you’re craving something sweet, before you judge yourself over it and either indulge or set a restriction, pause for a minute and ask yourself a few questions.
- Would I be satisfied with a small piece of frozen chocolate to suck on?
- Is there an event coming up soon that will serve cake, pies, etc that I know I can enjoy?
- If I don’t act on this right now, will I still crave it in 20-30 minutes?
I’ve followed this strategy to a tee – and considering that I used to be addicted to sweets (but I now enjoy them in perfect balance), this works beautifully.
I never deny myself something I want. I question it and see how I feel like directing it.
It puts ME in charge instead of the craving. I’ve practiced it enough times and now it’s natural for me to maintain a perfectly balanced way to enjoy my treats without restriction.
I also reinvent my favorite dishes using healthier ingredients and I can assure you, I don’t suffer at all.
You don’t have to either.
And when it comes to fitness, while I had worked hard to lose my weight (when I was in the “all” mode), I’ve been able to maintain balance there as well.
When it comes to exercise, working out can be a pleasant experience. You just have to find what you enjoy and make sure it’s suited for your level of fitness.
If you don’t want to drag your ass out of bed at the crack of dawn and hoof it on over to boot camp, you don’t have to (unless you want to).
But you will need to move.
You can find something you’d prefer to do and set some time aside to do it.
~ Do you enjoy walking?
~ Bike riding in the park?
~ Have you ever wanted to learn to dance? Practice Yoga? Learn Martial Arts?
See what you feel excited about – and then go and take a class.
If nothing else, there are fantastic home workout programs available for people of all fitness levels.
If you need some direction with this, I can help.
Just make it fun. This way, you’ll stick with it.
Work With a Coach
I was over 200 pounds. I had every eating disorder there is.
I tried everything…and I couldn’t stick with a plan.
Eventually (as written in the post linked above), I found a personal trainer who was able to help me. If it hadn’t been for him, I don’t know what life would look like for me right now.
I was a train wreck. I honestly didn’t think I would ever lose the weight.
But I did, thanks to him.
You may consider working with one. A well-qualified trainer can be an asset in your life. I can attest to that.
A bad one can do some damage, though. Not all personal trainers are created equal.
But a good one (an educated, conscious and caring one) isn’t cheap. Sessions can range anywhere from $50 and up depending on the trainer, your location, and their qualifications – among other things. Someone well qualified could easily charge $85+ per session – and you may need to work with them 2-3 times per week.
If this isn’t in your budget, you may want to work with a coach.
What does a wellness coach do?
- A wellness coach works with you to discover what your current circumstances are, what’s held you back and where you want to go.
- They get to know you and they design a personalized program tailored to your specific needs.
- They’re your confidant, your cheerleader, and your guide.
- They put you on a program to help steer you in the right direction regarding fitness and nutrition.
- They hold you accountable…
- …and they make sure you know you aren’t alone in the journey.
If you’ve been struggling with your weight or simply want to take better care of yourself, I can help.
My coaching services are now available to those who need some help in this department.
If this is you, know this:
I’ve BEEN you. And I know what it takes to free yourself from this unpleasant situation.
You can find out more about this by visiting my coaching page here.
Taking the First Step
Do you think your worth being well?
Do you think you can change your life?
I have, even though I had no idea that I had it in me to do this.
You can too. You just need to make the decision and consider working with someone who can help you.
You don’t have to do this alone…
…and it doesn’t have to be a drag either 🙂
Have you ever worked with a coach or a trainer?