Many of us have found ourselves stuck in a rut at some point in our lives.
Sometimes it lasts a day, a week, a month or perhaps even longer.
It’s painful to go through this, I know – and at times, you can feel like you’ll never crawl out of this pit you’re in. You still have to get through your routine because you have responsibilities, but it sure is tough to get motivated.
So with this in mind, how do you deal when you’re in a funk?
I have some ideas. Out of all of them, I’m confident you’ll find at least one thing you’ll connect with.
Stuck in A Rut? Here’s How You Crawl Out
Find something – anything to make you feel better.
And when I say anything, I don’t really mean anything.
Anything can include activities that might seem like a good idea, but in reality, will offer consequences that’ll only add to your problems.
So you want to be mindful of what activities you’ll choose to involve yourself in.
For example, things like alcohol, drugs (even the legal ones) and shopping (retail therapy) seem appealing because they offer a temporary sense of pleasure, but these things can also come with a hefty price tag.
The idea behind finding activities that will help you to feel better are geared toward well-being.
These are the things that can not only bring a sense of happiness to your life, but may get you in a better place altogether.
I know it’s tough to feel anything other than despair when you’re in a rut. It seems like everything you attempt to do either doesn’t work, or you can’t enjoy the things that generally make you happy.
So instead of trying to do things from a place of productivity, just do them from a place of seeking relief.
What might that look like?
Well, depending on you, the ideas could vary.
If you’re someone who needs to feel productive, then you’ll find something that can produce a tangible result.
Such things may include:
- Music (playing an instrument or singing – meaning, creating music)
- Taking a class
When you engage in these activities, you don’t want to focus on the result. You just want to be in the creative process.
By being result’s oriented, you may wind up unhappy with what comes out of your project, and this can push you further into feelings of failure – which will only keep you in the rut.
Instead, just be in the moment of what you’re doing. Use this as playtime.
I do this when I’m stuck in a rut and it works, even if it’s temporary.
I’ll get in the kitchen and think up something to create. I don’t care how it comes out.
I put my music on, work with the food and stay detached from the results.
More often than not, I end up creating something cool. The feeling of “playtime” distracts me from my problems and since I stay involved in what I’m doing, instead of needing it to turn out a certain way – I release the resistance within me and allow my imagination to flow freely.
Now if you aren’t interested in doing something creative, you can engage in other activities that can act as a soothing agent.
- Reading (preferably something that at least doesn’t involve violence or depressing topics).
- Watching movies (same idea as above).
- Listening to music.
- Eating something delicious (however, NOT from a place of abusing food – which is easy to do in this state of you aren’t careful). You’ll want to practice mindful eating here, so try to find something healthy that you love and use discernment with portion control).
- Listening to audios or podcasts designed to inspire you or expand your level of consciousness.
- Hanging out with someone you enjoy spending time with.
- Watching or listening to anything that makes you laugh.
- Venturing out into nature by walking on the beach or simply being outside.
I used to live by the beach. I loved it, and I miss having such easy access to an environment that brought me peace.
I would go and walk on the shore or just sit on the sand and listen to the crashing waves. I didn’t solve any of my problems by doing this, but it sure soothed the pain, even temporarily.
These days, I’ll either go to the park and sit on the bench that has a view of the water, or I’ll hang out in my backyard and admire the beauty of the surrounding trees, along with the plants I’ve grown from seed.
Just observing nature and refraining from interacting with my thoughts will do the trick. Sometimes inspiration hits and I become creative, other times it doesn’t.
But the change in scenery helps.
I’ve also found that watching movies offers me a sense of relief when I need it most. I’ll choose something that either has an inspiring message or one that simply allows me to get lost in the story for a while.
The idea is to make the conscious decision to stop ruminating and find joy.
When you do this from a place of caring about yourself, you’ll engage in activities that do no harm – to yourself or others. They may even lead you to a place where something wonderful transpires – as long as you aren’t attached to an outcome.
Being in a rut sucks. No doubt about that.
But if you follow the steps listed above, you’ll find that you don’t have to spend every waking moment of the day in misery.
Within yourself, you’ll stumble across a level of trust in life. You’ll realize you aren’t as alone as you think you are – even if there’s no one around to spend time with.
If nothing else, you’ll discover how you best handle being down and out by trying new things.
Maybe you’re the type that has to be still for a while. Or perhaps, you’ll find you need to take action to propel yourself to new heights.
This will be a personal endeavor. There is no one way to crawl out of a rut.
So experiment a bit. The ideas presented here will help you to discover what makes you tick.
And remember, we all go through this.
You truly aren’t alone.
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