I have a treat for you today…
I had the pleasure of meeting Adrienne Smith a few years ago. I was one of the contributing writers for a health and wellness website and it was my responsibility to reply to comments left on my posts.
Now at the time, I was new to the whole blogging scene. I knew people left comments here and there in response to some of the articles and videos I would see out there, but they were usually vague and not terribly personal.
So when the time came for me to read Adrienne’s comment on my own post, I was pleasantly surprised – to say the least.
Here was a woman who not only clearly read what I had written, but communicated her thoughts about it in such a way – it was as if we had known one another for years.
I thought “wow…she’s so cool! If this is how she leaves a comment, I HAVE to visit her blog and see what she’s all about“.
So I did.
And I’ve been hooked ever since.
Adrienne is one of the most genuine, authentic and successful people in the blogosphere. This is because she’s the real deal.
I’ll let you discover what she’s all about for yourself in this honest, inspiring and thought provoking post.
I’m especially thrilled to share her message on my birthday weekend. It’s a wonderful gift for me – but in truth, it’s really something special for you.
So without further ado, here’s Adrienne.
Why Losing My Job Actually Saved My Life
I remember the call like it was yesterday. It was a Friday, September 8th and it was the year 2000.
I was working away at my desk and my best friend’s Mom called me and said, “A, you’ve got to get here quick because Chuck isn’t going to make it.”
Her daughter had been my best friend since we were in our early 20’s. Chuck was her second husband and we used to call him our big ole teddy bear. He was a big cuddly guy and one of the sweetest men you could possibly meet; a pure joy to be around.
The weekend before was Labor Day so that Saturday Chuck had cooked out on the grill and they were enjoying one of his fabulous steaks.
They had two children, an 11 year old daughter from my best friend’s previous marriage and a five year old son. Chuck had gotten up from the table because he wasn’t feeling well and went into the bedroom to lie down.
The last thing the kids remember was their Dad being taken away on a stretcher. He looked over at them both and said, “I love you”.
He lost consciousness in the ambulance and never woke up again. He’d had a hypertension stroke to the brain due to stress and he was only 43 years old.
How Your Job Can Actually Kill You
Chuck’s job killed him. Okay, maybe not just the job but the stress related to the job as well as other issues that he worried about.
Doctor’s will warn you that stress is a killer but until you witness it first hand, most people think “well that will never happen to me.”
Guess what! Chuck NEVER thought it would happen to him either.
With the way the economy is, so many people are working at a job that they hate. Do you honestly know just how dangerous that can be for you?
Chuck didn’t hate his job and at that time I didn’t hate mine either. The issue is the workload we’re given because a lot of companies were cutting back. Some people would gladly take on more work so they would seem more valuable to the company and hopefully not lose their jobs.
There are so many things related to this but we all have to learn how to get control of our thoughts and our actions or this could be you.
I sure as heck didn’t want it to be me…
Pay Attention To The Signs
Less than three years after losing Chuck I lost my father.
We all sat on his bed holding onto him as he took his last breath.
It was Sunday, February 23, 2003, at 11:00 pm.
For the next two years, I fought the worst depression I’ve ever faced in my entire life.
I was a Daddy’s girl I admit, and I loved my Dad with every ounce of my soul. I didn’t fall into a downward spiral just because I had lost my Dad although that was SO hard. It was the WAY I lost my Dad that sent me over the edge.
His own doctor of over 15 years abandoned him in his time of need. Due to things he didn’t divulge to the family, my Dad didn’t get the care he needed at the most critical time in his life which lead to his death.
I’m not sharing these stories with you for sympathy, I’m sharing them because you might be one of those who needs a wake-up call.
Stress is a killer but unlike Chuck, I got help. I was in therapy for almost two years and I was on antidepressants. I let my anger with the doctor get the best of me and it took me to a place I never ever want to visit again.
After finally coming back to the somewhat old me, I was never the same after that, I knew just how unhappy I was with my career.
I knew because of what happened to Chuck that I was going down that same path.
I was approaching my late 40’s and no longer enjoyed my career. I had and still do have a pretty high work ethic yet the people they kept hiring just wanted the money and could care less about the job.
At that time I was the executive assistant to the owner of the company as well as office manager. That meant everywhere they slacked off I had to make up their work yet I was a salaried employee which meant no extra money.
Heck, I didn’t even get a thank you. It was just expected of me.
What the hell is wrong with this picture!
Is this the way people should be treated?
Hell no, but this is what’s happening to not only me but so many people who are stuck in jobs and situations they don’t want to be in either.
Every human has four endowments – self-awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The power to choose, to respond, to change.” ~ Stephen R. Covey
Personal Development Saved Me
It was December 2006 and I was introduced to the movie “The Secret”. Like so many people who watched it after it came out I was immediately under the impression that all I had to do was just believe that I could be anything I wanted and it would happen.
Let me tell you my friends, I was a BELIEVER!!!
In January of 2007 when I was given the pink slip due to yet another downsizing I actually danced out the door. I kid you not; I seriously danced out that door.
My co-workers thought I was nuts but I was SO happy because I had a new lease on life and I was NOT going to be like Chuck.
I was NOT going to let those jerks get the best of me and I was going to go out and conquer the world.
Am I where I thought I would be?
Was it easy to get where I am today?
Would I do anything differently?
No one else, just us.
We truly can be, do or have anything we want. No one is going to hand it to you on a silver platter either, you have to create it and trust me when I tell you this…YOU CAN!!!
Walking away from corporate America was the best thing I could have ever done for myself although I struggled for years to find 1) what I wanted to do and 2) my place online.
I wouldn’t be where I am today though had I stayed where I was. I would probably be with Chuck and my Dad by now.
You have control over your own thoughts and feelings. I let them get away from me after I lost my Dad but knowing what happened to Chuck, I knew where I was headed if I didn’t do something about it.
Learn from those before you, learn from those who have been through it and made it to the other side. Know that you are magnificent and never ever ever let anyone else convince you otherwise.
I’m proof, Dana is proof, Sylviane is proof as well as so many others.
Let your imagination run wild. Think different thoughts, visualize what you want, be in that place and that moment and feel what it would be like if it were true.
Do the work my friends and watch your life change before your eyes.
I’m not a personal development coach but I’ve lived it, I’ve done it and so can you.
Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do something. You got a dream, you gotta protect it. When people can’t do something themselves, they are going to tell you that you can’t do it. You want something, go get it. Period. ~ Will Smith
I hope what I’ve shared can inspire you to do, be and have whatever you want in your life.
The time is now to start so do whatever it takes so you can be living the life you’ve always imagined.
Dana and I would love to hear from you so please let us know your thoughts in the comments below. Hopefully you haven’t had any of your own struggles but I have a feeling that we all have dealt with something right!
Be the creator of your own life. I can tell you honestly that I LOVE mine.
About Adrienne Smith
Adrienne Smith’s passion has always been to help others. She started having tremendous success with her blog in early 2011 and over time built an amazing community. She teaches others how to do the same in her course, “Build a Blog Community”. She also consults with entrepreneurs who are eager to take their blogs to the next level.
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