I had written this a few years ago and didn’t publish it because I had gotten busy with other projects, so I’d put it away.
However, given everything that’s going on recently, I think it’s a good time to go ahead and finish it.
Things are out of control – and I don’t feel there’s a quick fix to this.
People are angry, scared and pointing blame.
It’s always someone else’s fault, isn’t it?
That’s the most difficult aspect of all of this.
Personal responsibility vs. blame.
The conundrum we’re in is the fact that there’s a little of both at play when it comes to stereotyping.
Yes, there are people at fault.
But we’ve also contributed to this as well.
If it’s truly important to gain some clarity over what we’re dealing with here, we’ll need to do some deep soul searching, ask ourselves tough questions, be brave enough to accept full responsibility for our role in things and recreate some new ideas from an expanded sense of awareness.
Stereotyping – A Way to Divide and Conquer
What Is A Stereotype?
According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, a stereotype is:
Something conforming to a fixed or general pattern; especially : a standardized mental picture that is held in common by members of a group and that represents an oversimplified opinion, prejudiced attitude, or uncritical judgment.
There are other definitions, but this one pretty much sums up what I’m looking for. It’s a form of conditioning, and one we typically accept without question.
Stereotyping has shown its ugliness in many different ways.
A few examples are:
- sexual orientation
- school and work cliques
- social/ economical class
These examples create the illusion of us/ them. The longer this is accepted, the more pain it causes, and the more we destroy ourselves, each other and our environment.
I feel, to a certain degree, that most if not all of us are “guilty” of stereotyping.
But I’m not going to sit here and say there hasn’t been evidence that stereotyping hasn’t warranted some credibility.
Now before I go on, I just want to say that if I point something out, it isn’t to insult anyone or push any buttons.
I like to get to the cause of things. Sometimes this involves saying things that may hurt – but until we face everything that has led to our current circumstances instead of being politically correct (another disease that’s infected humanity) – then we’ll continue to search for solutions to a problem we haven’t correctly identified.
Why We Stereotype
The reason I feel stereotyping has gone on as long as it has is because in some way, there’s been proof that whatever we stereotype people as is warranted.
There’ve been members of particular groups that’ve demonstrated actions that make the entire group look bad.
Instead of using discernment, we identify these people who act as the image and voice for the group and we unconsciously accept them as THE group in its entirety.
I’m sure you’ve heard (and said) some of these popular phrases:
- dumb blond
- cheap Jew
- rich asshole
- stupid bitch
- useless bum
- bratty kid
These are just a few examples of how we label people from all walks of life regardless of whether or not it’s warranted.
We stereotype everyone. It doesn’t matter what race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, nationality , social or financial class people are in.
You’ll have your bad eggs and your good eggs. Everyone else is somewhere in between – grouped into a category that focuses on the loudest members of that group.
This is why we need to take a step back and “witness what we’re witnessing.”
Remember to be an observer.
This would involve something like:
“I’m seeing someone/ a group of people act like assholes. Am I silently judging EVERYONE in this group?”
Maybe some of you don’t, but a lot of us do. May as well admit it.
And unforutnately, the longer stereotyping goes on, the more people who believe these labels are true – the more they’ll become them.
And then we fight.
We become what we believe. We believe what we pay attention to.
What we pay attention to eventually becomes our truth.
But it won’t if we question things.
Is There a Solution for Stereotyping?
I feel there is, but it’ll take a while to see the effects.
None of this developed overnight. We’ve been seeing others this way for a good, long time.
And in truth, there’s been plenty of “proof” that how we view one another is legitimate because of acts that have taken place in the past, several of which were vast and quite damaging. The resentment we feel toward one another goes way back.
And we continue to act it out, in part, due to the emotional wounds we still carry around and the hatred and anger we feel toward those who’ve caused us so much pain.
The reason I mentioned earlier that while some of this is our fault, some of it isn’t is because I feel the media plays a big role in how we perceive things. We need to remember that everything we think, feel and believe started off as an idea.
Well, most of our ideas have been handed to us throughout time. Our ancestors, parents, and peers are all products of the information they’ve received and the emotional connections they’ve developed in response to these ideas. These people influence us, so we do as they do more often than not.
These days though, we have the media dispensing information everywhere we look.
Has it ever occurred to you that maybe, just maybe, these news outlets are owned by some pretty wealthy and “powerful” people who have something to gain by feeding you biased and distorted information?
Hmmm, what could be gained by people turning against one another?
Try to put yourself in the mindset of people who are fueled by power and are intelligent enough to orchestrate chaos.
Could they try to control us through force?
They did in the past, but let’s face it – people are much angrier these days. No one wants to be controlled any longer, especially when you view past events and experience the feelings of victimization and hopelessness from the population back then.
Folks want to fight now and they aren’t as afraid of authority – especially when these individuals whose job it is to maintain the public’s compliance have blatantly abused their positions.
And yes, they have abused their positions. Corruption and a psychopathic mindset don’t care what side of the law it operates on.
So with people now having grown a set and obviously not wanting or willing to be slaughtered and tormented like they were in the past…
…what would be the path of least resistance when it comes to controlling them for your own benefit?
Pit em against one another. That’s how.
Divide and conquer.
People aren’t born to hate.
I personally feel that for the most part, we humans are born neutral.
We become products of our ego. The physical identification with form.
We learn to hate.
It’s part of the programming we endure.
It’s everywhere. As I’d discussed in my post about questioning our thoughts and beliefs, we don’t start forming our own opinions until later on in our childhood – once our foundation had been set by our surroundings.
We grow up faced with the opinions of others immediately. And when we see others acting their parts out because they believe the labels they were handed, it only solidifies our opinions into “objective truth.”
All we have to do is take a good look around and see how things are unfolding.
The hate, the chaos and the fighting are all effects of a cause.
That cause is we’re programmed.
We don’t remember who we are.
And who might that be?
We’re an extension of the Divine. Humans are equipped with a spark of divinity.
We have access to this spark, which is capable of enabling us to do magnificent things on this crazy, fucked up planet we’re living on.
But if this spark is covered over by the plaque of our wounds, we’ll never have access to it.
We’ll continue to act out everything we’ve been taught – as long as we believe these things to be true.
It’ll be tough, but it’ll be up to us to decide, once and for all, that the pain of our current circumstances is too much to bear any longer – and we’ll be open to being the change required to take this world in a more caring and compassionate direction.
We can all take some practical steps by:
- Being an unbiased observer.
- Questioning our thoughts and beliefs.
- Taking a good look around and see the effects at play in the world.
And lastly, for the love of God…
Quit acting like the fucking label you’ve been given!
Seriously, I feel that’s an important step.
Stop believing you are who other ignorant and ill-meaning people say you are.
Chip away at the false ideas and concepts of yourself and find your spark.
Be someone the world needs more of. If you don’t know who that is, use your imagination and invent it.
Just don’t hurt anyone.
That’s the only rule any of us needs to follow.
Do No Harm…
But take no shit.
Easier said than done though because so many of us are angry and wounded. We can’t help but act these things out in the world.
This is why it’ll be up to us to decide who we want to be.
I don’t recommend ignoring what’s inside of you. That won’t work.
Observe your pain. Question it.
Work with it.
Make emotional intelligence and self-awareness your main priority in life.
And quit letting your past control your life.
That’s when the real transformation occurs.
I’ll wrap this up with something I said the other day on social media.
“Regardless of the story de jour – humanity is acting a fool.
It isn’t going to get any better right now either.
Events have been set in motion long ago. They’re just playing themselves out – following the Law of Cause and Effect. None of this is random.
Hold on tight folks. We’ll have to decide, using our free will choice, whether we want to add to the chaos or not. As hard as it is, reacting out of emotion isn’t a wise decision.
There are two sides to only one coin here. This coin has many factors, angles, and circumstances – but it’s still just one coin.
War or no war.
We’ve got the race card, the religion card, sexuality/ class/ gender/ social status, political preference and even our physical appearance.
When this blows over (and it will – it all does as soon as something else pops up), there will be something else to traumatize our collective psyche.
It’s all meant to add to the division – and hate.
What our “elected political leaders” have gotten us into on a bigger scale is one thing. What we act out on the streets and in our neighborhoods is another.
The latter, right now, is up to us.
The biggest problem we have here is an infantile level of maturity. The antidote is being a true grown up.
Wise people feel their emotions and observe. They seek answers – knowing the right questions will lead to more questions before offering legitimate and well-rounded answers.
Overgrown babies fight it out with blindfolds on.
Take your blindfolds off and see what’s really going on.
The details are small, vast, complicated and abundant – but the overall picture is huge – and simple.”
Most people have no idea how engineered reality is.
The biggest and most dangerous war taking place is the one on the human psyche.
Stop believing everything you see, hear and have been taught.
Know that divide and conquer is underway. It’s intentional.
It doesn’t have to continue, but it’ll be up to us to change it.
Until we face the war within ourselves, the world will never change.
I leave you with the wisdom of one of the greatest artists to have ever existed.
This is what we’re dealing with.
What are your thoughts?
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